How did you know that your husband was the One? How’d you know you wanted to get married?
An informal survey of women between the ages of 24 and 65 produced some very interesting stories. Here are a few of the ones that struck a cord with me.
How I Knew I Wanted to Marry Him: Women Speak Out
“He is the second person I ever went out with and I am the only person he ever went out with and it just felt right. Been married 34 years this coming August.” ~Laura
“The moment I saw Mark from across the room I knew I wanted to marry him. I even told one of my best friends at the time that I was going to marry him some day. That was on December 12th, 1994. I was 17 and he was 23. Four kids and over 16 years of marriage later, we still say I love you at least 10 or more times a day, even if we are arguing.” ~Amanda
“I told my mom the first time I saw Robert that I would marry him. We had a great friendship during our journalism workshop and that made things even better when we started dating. I just always felt a strong connection to him and I think being friends somehow gets us through the rough spots but we’re 10+ years together and almost 3 years married and looking forward to the 5, 10, 15, 20+ year marks.” ~Aja
“For me, it was that he made me feel like my life was complete when i was with him. I knew he was someone I could grow old with. I feel so blessed any lucky to have him and he still gives me butterflies. This is my second marriage and i finally got it right. He makes me happy.” ~Shelly
“I knew I wanted to marry my husband when I caught him playing Barbies with my 2 year old daughter. At least he was playing with the Ken doll.” ~Lisa
“We went on a road trip together that took us to about eight different states. At one point, we had to drive through West Virginia for hours and hours and hours in the pouring rain. We didn’t get to our hotel until after midnight. We didn’t argue once — that’s how I knew we were meant to be together.” ~Leigh
“I felt like I could breathe when I was with Marco. I didn’t have to “be” anything. I could just be. He was so laid back and cool with everything and not wound up. He was my polar opposite, my balance. Being with him made any other relationship feel like it had been in another life almost. It’s hard to describe and it’s something I’d never felt before meeting him.” ~Sarah
Your Turn: How’d you know he or she was “the ONE” for you? Share your thoughts, feelings and experiences in the comments section, below.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.