“Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars.” ~Les Brown
Anyone who knows me probably knows that I do everything within my power to stay positive about every situation. And it serves me quite well.
Still, occasionally something sticks in my head and I just have to talk about it.
Like, for example, the fact that I’ve read three different Facebook posts today about creating New Year’s resolutions–each of which said something to the effect of “be sure to set goals, but don’t shoot too high.”
I’m here to tell you that is complete nonsense.
Stop whatever you’re doing for a minute and read this:
The fact is that you won’t get more than you expect.
Hold on. Read it again. Really GET what I’m saying before you keep going.
You ONLY get what you expect.
So, let’s say you’d really like to open your own business.
Now, you could resolve to do that, and if you believe that it will manifest (and take inspired action as necessary), the world is your oyster.
But, let’s just say you’re one of those Negative Nelly or Ned types and you don’t believe it can happen.
You worry about not having enough money, not having enough support, not being able to get the loan or the employees or WHATEVER it is that you are afraid of – and then, my friend, you might as well just pack up the idea before you even get started.
Why? Because you get what you BELIEVE you will get. If you believe you will have “not enough” then expect it. You’ve got to focus on having “more than you need” or everything you need IN ABUNDANCE if you expect to get anywhere.
Fact: You simply cannot achieve more than you believe you can.
It’s not that complicated, really. Like Mary Kay Ash once said, “If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Read carefully my friends: Do Not Put Limits on Your Desires! You can have, do or be whatever you want, if you believe that you can. You don’t have to know exactly how you’re going to get there, either.
That’s one of the cool things about this whole deal–put your desires out to the universe and then believe that you’re manifesting them. Because you are.
You are what you think. Placing limits on your thoughts (or attempting to limit the aspirations of others) will only attract more limits into your life. Instead, open your mind and recognize that the world is abundant. You can achieve whatever you believe you can.
Think I’m full of it?
Think of Andrew Carnegie. The child of poor immigrants, he believed that he could achieve his dreams–and went on to become the second richest man in history.
So how did he do it?
He simply believed that he could–he decided what he wanted, took the necessary inspired action, and his true divine desires manifested exactly as he expected.
“I am no longer cursed by poverty because I took possession of my own mind, and that mind has yielded me every material thing I want, and much more than I need,” Carnegie once said. “But this power of mind is a universal one, available to the humblest person as it is to the greatest.”
In case I haven’t made myself clear, don’t believe anyone who tells you that you need to put limits on your goals and desires. You are the keeper of your own destiny, and YOU decide what you believe you can accomplish. Refuse to accept anything less than your true divine desires.
Still not convinced?
Remember what Buddha said: “All that we are is the result of what we have thought.”
Think big, my friends. Believe that your greatest desires will manifest–because the truth is that we really do get what we expect.
Need a further nudge? Consider what famed American writer and mythologist Joseph Campbell said.
“Follow your bliss, and doors will open for you that you never knew existed. Follow your bliss, and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”
What do you think? Will you refuse to accept limits on your potential this year? Tell me in the comments section, below!
“Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” ~Mary Kay Ash
Take a moment for yourself. Sit back, relax and allow yourself to dream for a bit about whom you’d like to be and what you’d really like to do with your life.
If you could simply paint an image of who you want to be, what would that look like? Free-association like this can be incredibly helpful in realizing your goals.
Spend some highly productive time meditating on your dreams with these strategies:
Find a quiet time and place.
This will be somewherewhere you can reflect without interruption. You might take a walk in the park or a bike ride for an hour. Maybe you’ll choose to lay out on a blanket under that big shade tree in your back yard.
Encourage your mind to pursue any positive thoughts.
Think about what you wanted to be when you were 10, 15, and 20. Was it the same occupation or way of life at each stage of your development? Or were you always coming up with something new you wanted to do?
Think about your deepest desires.
Do you want to have a lot of money and travel the world? Or just settle down and have a family? Perhaps you picture yourself surrounded by many close friends with whom you spend a lot of your spare time. Maybe your preferred way to live is an independent, quiet lifestyle alone with your books, paints, and hobbies.
Visualize your living space. Where you live largely determines the kind of life you have.
Living in a warm southern climate means you can be more physically active in warm weather year round. If you live in an apartment in the middle of the big city, you might live a life filled with wall to wall people, ethnic foods, and cultural experiences of all kinds. There’s rarely any quiet and you’re incredibly active, partaking of all that city life has to offer.
A rural setting, on the other hand, provides its own sense of stability. You enjoy nature frequently. The sights, sounds, and smells of plants, animals, and the four seasons surround you as you walk or work outdoors. Stress levels are lower.
Make a wish.
You might think that making a wish is just for kids. But for the sake of this exercise, if you could have just one wish for your life, what would it be? To be a husband someday? To be a mother? To travel to a few exotic countries you’ve wanted to see? To be an accountant or small business owner?
Your wish will reveal a lot about you and what you desire.
Dream about your career.
Continuing to paint the picture of who you would choose to be, where would you be working? What kind of job credentials would you hold? What would you be like in that situation?
Because work is almost one-third of your life, consider your career choice as profoundly integral to your happiness.
Engage in a little planning.
Now that you’ve reflected on your life and who you’d like to be, how close is your actual life to your desires? What can you do to help yourself become who and what you want to be?
You deserve to live the life you choose. Reflect on who and what you want to be. Let your mind go for a bit. Then, ask yourself what you want for yourself. Think about where you’d prefer to live. Think about the career you’d have if you could do it all over again.
Finally, ask yourself what you will need to do to get to the place of your dreams, physically, emotionally, and career-wise. You can be anything you want to be. Make some effort now to find out who that really is.
So tell me–do you know who you are? And what are you going to do about it? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section, below
“Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” ~Mary Kay Ash, founder Mary Kay Cosmetics
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A great life doesn’t happen by chance. It’s the result of having goals and skillfully allocating your resources in order to reach them. These resources include your thoughts, time, and energy.
Ultimately, a great life comes from taking the 24 hours you’re given each day and using them in a wise manner. This is more effective than just dealing with the next item on your endless lis of chores or reacting to what’s happening around you.
The key is in being proactive to create the life you desire.
Consider making these action tips a part of your daily routine:
Get started. Avoid waiting for the perfect time or you’ll be waiting forever. It may be tempting to keep putting things off until you reach some milestone. But instead, take the first step to realizing your success and start now.
Create an excess of everything valuable. A great life is largely the result of having more than you absolutely need. You can apply this concept to time, money, fun, space, energy, love, friends, and anything else that matters to you.
What if you saved 5 years of living expenses and had 3 days a week to do what you want?
Wouldn’t it be nice to have so many friends that you could easily find someone available for a night on the town?
Can you imagine making 5 times the amount of money you need to pay your bills and getting to enjoy your life?
Simplify your life. Eliminate the things from your life that aren’t bringing you enjoyment or contributing to your success. Everything else is a distraction. By doing this, you free up the time and energy to focus on the important stuff.
Prioritize. Give the most important items in your life the highest priority. Consider the people you know that seem to constantly struggle. You’ll likely see that their priorities aren’t leading them to success. If you focus on irrelevant things, your life doesn’t move in a positive direction.
If you accurately prioritize and allocate your resources accordingly, success will be just around the corner.
Choose the life you want. The only alternative is to rely on random luck.
Remove the superfluous from your life. How many things in your life are physically and emotionally draining? Do everything you can to eliminate the distractions in your life and your energy level and productivity will soar
Strive for excellence. Great lives come from great effort. Are you spending your time and money in the best way possible? Your best effort isn’t simply “trying really hard.” It’s also doing your best to figure out where to focus your energy. Be effective and efficient.
Control your thinking.Taking charge of your thoughts is a huge priority. If you look at most of the previous tips, they’re about making it easier to control your thoughts.
Simplifying, having priorities, and removing distractions will all help you to control your thoughts. The more time you can spend focusing on your goals, finding solutions, and believing, the more successful you’ll become.
Success is the result of simplifying, focusing your resources, and controlling your thoughts. You already have everything you need to get started. The other things you require will be found along the way.
Start implementing these ideas today. They’re the backbone for creating a life you’ll love.
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have it all?
I’ll tell you why.
It’s because they BELIEVE that they can have it all, and they believe they deserve it.
Ever wondered why you can’t get anything right? Well, here it is folks: it’s because you don’t believe you can.
Mary Kay Ash said, “If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.”
My message to you today is simple.
The power you seek to change your life is in your hands.
All you have to do is use it. The really cool part is that it’s so easy–just believe in yourself. Stop doubting yourself, and watch your thoughts.
When you notice negative thoughts, just say to yourself, “I’m now canceling this negative thought and replacing it with this more positive affirmation of my true desires.”
In fact, you don’t even need to be that formal about it–but reciting something to that effect in your head is a great way to distract yourself from the negativity you’re dealing with, and then it’s important that you actually follow through and replace the thought with a positive one.
For example, let’s say you are calling a creditor to explain why your payment will be late.
Before you call, you might worry and tell yourself that they won’t understand and that they’ll be rude or nasty to you.
When you make that call, you find that your fears come true. And here’s the interesting part…it came true because you believed it would.
Next time a situation like that presents itself, take a moment before you deal with it to get focused and calm. Try taking ten deep breaths in, blowing each one out fully before taking in the next.
Visualize yourself being clearly understood and empathized with by the person.
Visualize the situation working out to your best advantage, and really know it.
Tell yourself things will work out in your favor, and really believe it.
Then, pick up the phone and have that conversation.
I’ll bet you have a different outcome this time.
Bottom line: If you can believe it, you can achieve it. It’s a fact.