How to Stop Feeling Dead Inside (Free eBook Through Sunday, May 21!)

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How to Change a Life: 19 Ways to Pay It Forward Without Spending a Dime

How to Change a Life: 19 Ways to Pay It Forward Without Spending a Dime

“If there is any great secret of success in life, it lies in the ability to put yourself in the other person’s place and to see things from his point of view – as well as your own.” – Henry Ford (more…)

It’s Global Pay It Forward Day: 5 Videos to Inspire You

It’s Global Pay It Forward Day: 5 Videos to Inspire You

It’s Global Pay It Forward Day! You know what that means? It’s time to start committing random acts of kindness!


“The Official Pay it Forward Day Trailer – changing the world, one good deed at a time 🙂
We should be paying kindness forward every day – the last Thursday in April (Pay it Forward Day) is a powerful reminder of the power of giving and the difference we can all make in the community. But why wait? There is nothing better than putting a smile on someone else’s face…Thanks for joining us – we are looking to inspire over 3 million acts of kindness.” Blake Beatty, Video Producer, http://www.payitforwardday.com

“Inspirational Video – Pay It Forward Acts of Kindness Boomerang Effect” ~U.S. Motivational, Video Producer

“In this montage we see five simple acts of kindness. I’ve asked a few people what their favorite/most impacting one was and the answers are all different. Its pretty interesting how we bring our own impressions to what we see. Which one works best for you? Hopefully this inspires people to give some of these a try. The first two were directed by Eun Ho Lee, second two by me, and the last one by Tim Savage.” ~Chad Brownstein, Video Producer

Random Acts of Kindness: Restoring Faith in Humanity in 2013

Pay It Forward (Movie Trailer)

No Strings Attached: The Only Way to Give

No Strings Attached: The Only Way to Give

“To give and not expect anything in return; to give for no special time or season; to give, not for any particular recognition; to give, not for a substantial tax refund; to give for the sake of giving — often just between giver and receiver — has a life of its own — an elevated one.” ~Glaceta Honeyghan

They say there are no selfless acts, because when you do something nice for someone else, you get (at the very least) a warm fuzzy feeling–but there’s a difference between benefiting from “good karma” and benefiting because you only help people with conditions attached.

Earlier this month, a woman I know told me that she couldn’t afford to buy school supplies for her kids. As a single mom who was unemployed, she just didn’t have the money. She had done everything she could to try to procure the things her kids needed for school–even called several charity groups in the area for help, but she got nowhere.

So, I did what anyone would do–I offered to buy her kids the things they needed to start school.

She was grateful, and that made me feel good. She insisted that she pay me back, but I kept telling her it wasn’t necessary. I knew she couldn’t afford to do it, and I didn’t offer to help because I expected anything in return.

I offered to help because I could afford to help, because I care about this person and her kids–and because I have been helped myself along the way. No strings attached.

She felt so strongly about giving back that she came over and helped me with some things around the house, which was appreciated but again, not necessary.

When Strings Are Attached

I have been lucky in my life to have supportive people around me, and when I’ve fallen in the past, they’ve helped me get back on my feet. I’ve always felt grateful for those people and the help they offered me in my times of need.

But in some cases, there were strings attached–like, if I help you, you have to agree to do what I want. Whether the giver expects money, love, support or something else in return, these “strings” can cause a lot of stress and negative energy for both parties.

Dawn over at Frugal Life offers a perfect example of this–a friend of hers offered her a monetary gift, but when Dawn said she wanted to spend the money on a bill, her friend told her that she needed to spend it on something nice for herself instead.

“I was a little upset that she had changed the ‘rule’ on the ‘gift’ and now it came with a condition,” Dawn writes. “She might as well just keep the money and use it on herself. Well, that wasn’t a good response and things escalated into a war of words–me accusing her of being materialistic and having a spend, spend mentality; and she accusing me of being tight fisted and not having any fun.”

See what I mean? Bad energy for all involved.

Pay It Forward Instead

As for me, I work hard to avoid attaching strings to any generosities I extend to my family or friends. It is human nature to expect something in return, of course, so I have to be very intentional about it. When people insist on “repaying my kindness,” I simply ask them to pay it forward–because for me, that’s the best gift they could offer.

As I said before, I have been helped along the way by many kind people, both personally and professionally–and that’s why I help people whenever I can–to pay it forward.

How to Give Without Attaching Strings

It’s simple: only give what you can afford to spare, and don’t expect anything in return from the recipient of your gift. You can, however, expect to feel great when you do this–which makes your energy and general vibration more positive. That, in itself, can bring more good things into your life.

When you give with strings attached, you’re only setting yourself up for failure. Even if you get what you expect from the person you help, it won’t be because that person really wants to give it to you–it will be because he or she feels obligated to do so. And that, my friends, doesn’t feel good to anyone.

So, next time you help someone, do it without expectations, without “strings” attached, even if your human nature urges you to do otherwise. You won’t regret it.

Have you been the giver or receiver of gifts with strings attached? Tell me in the comments!

 

 

 

 

 

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