Turning Negative Self-Talk Into Positive Action

Turning Negative Self-Talk Into Positive Action

How do you cope with your negative self-talk? Here I give a few examples of turning that negative focus into something positive. Comments or questions?

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7 Reasons You’ll Never Have What You Want in Life (And One Way to Change That)

7 Reasons You’ll Never Have What You Want in Life (And One Way to Change That)

“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.” ~Michael Jordan (more…)

Ten Reasons Most of Us Can Be Thankful Today

Ten Reasons Most of Us Can Be Thankful Today

Gratitude is an important part of manifesting our desires, and when the going gets tough, many of us forget to express our gratitude for the good things in our lives.

Instead, we tend to focus on the tough stuff–and attract more of it into our lives (instead of the things we really want.)

Simply put, the best way to bring more good into your life is to be happy and grateful for the good things you’ve already got.

So, when you feel like nothing is going your way, take a moment to think about the things that are working in your life–the good stuff.

Ten Reasons You Can Be Grateful Today

1. You woke up this morning. You have been given the gift of another day of life.
2. You have a place to live and a silverware drawer. (Read more about my philosophy on the silverware drawer here.)
3. You can move your body and get from point A to point B.
4. You have a family–whether a biological/adopted family or good friends.
5. You can read.
6. You get to decide how you feel today.
7. You can write your own story.
8. You have clothes to wear.
9. You have food to eat.
10. You have access to a computer.

There we have it–ten simple things that you and I can be grateful for today!

So tell me…what are YOU grateful for on this beautiful day? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below!

Just Can’t Get You Out of My Head (And Not In a Good Way)

Just Can’t Get You Out of My Head (And Not In a Good Way)

“Drag your thoughts away from your troubles… by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it.” ~Mark Twain

Everyone has something (or someone) in their past that they’d just rather forget–but as everyone knows, sometimes that’s a little easier said than done. Yet, as we focus on obtaining our ultimate personal fulfillment, we know that focusing on those negative things or people from our past is doing nothing but keeping us from obtaining our true divine desires.

When we focus on the things we don’t want in our own lives, we draw more of those things toward us–and then we may not remember to focus on the things we DO want. This leaves us unhappy and unfulfilled, living with a general sense of dissatisfaction and we’re left wondering what we’re doing wrong.

The law of attraction doesn’t discriminate–it’s very simple. What you think about, you bring about. So, if you think about how exceptionally awesome your life is–then you’ll draw more reasons for exceptional awesomeness into your life. If you think about how much your life sucks–then you’ll soon find many more reasons for the suck factor.

I know, this is all very basic and may seem far too simple, especially when you throw whole “we’re all human” thing into the mix.  After all, we don’t always control the external factors, the little reminders in our everyday lives that trigger thoughts of the negative things or people in our pasts.

So what is a positive-thinking person to do?

Take an Honest Look at Yourself

“If things go wrong, don’t go with them.”  ~Roger Babson

First things first, it’s important to be aware of the problem. So, if you are always thinking about, say, that job you got fired from, you need to begin to be conscious of your internal dialogue–keep an “ear” on your thoughts. And the next time you think about that job, mentally “cancel” that thought and replace it with an affirmation of what you REALLY want.

So, for example, if what you really want is a new, high-paying and secure job that you enjoy, then you might tell yourself something like, “I work for ____. My job is secure and fun, and I make $_____ per ______.”

Take the Good, Leave the Bad

“Oh, my friend, it’s not what they take away from you that counts.  It’s what you do with what you have left.”  ~Hubert Humphrey

In almost every situation, there can be a positive. Using the example of the lost job, you could probably come up with at least one good thing that happened as a result of working there. Maybe you made a new friend, learned a good lesson or made enough money to send your kid to college.

If your negative thoughts revolve more around a past personal relationship, take the love, lessons and happy parts of that relationship and forget about the rest. That doesn’t mean that you have to get involved with that person in the present, but it means that you can move forward without the negative baggage “the rest” brings with it.

Keep the “good stuff” from your past and let the rest of it go. Again, this can be achieved through “thought replacement.” So, if you’re thinking about that ex who dumped you for no good reason, remind yourself of the things that you liked about the relationship with that person. Smile, give yourself a minute to reminisce, and then replace thoughts of that person with an affirmation of what you want today. Maybe something like “I am so very grateful for the healthy and fulfilling relationships in my life.” It takes some practice, but it works.

Don’t Worry–It Won’t Help

“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”  ~Leo Buscaglia

You get where I’m going with this, right? The bottom line here is that focusing on negative things–worrying and upsetting yourself–will do you no good. In fact, these negative thoughts can actually cause harm by drawing more negativity into your life.

Worrying never solved anything, so why should you sit around feeling bad? Choose to feel good instead, choose to think and feel positive things–and watch as you begin to manifest the life you’ve always wanted.

How are you going to choose to feel today?

Ten Reasons Most of Us Can Be Thankful Today

Exploring Gratitude: Ten Reasons I’m Giving Thanks Today

Today, I thought I’d share ten of my own personal reasons to be grateful.

1. I have a beautiful, healthy family who are the loves and the lights of my life.
2. I have a wonderful husband who loves me.
3. I have a great career–I get paid to do something I love!
4. I get to work from home, so that I can be here with my children.
5. I have a safe and lovely home.
6. My family and I are going to enjoy an amazing vacation this summer.
7. As the co-founder of The WM Network, I’m grateful for all of our wonderful bloggers.
8. Speaking of the network, I’m grateful for my friend, partner and co-founder, Alyssa.
9. I have an involved and loving extended family.
10. I have a strong and healthy body.

So tell me…what are you grateful for today? 🙂

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