As you may or may not be aware, I lost more than 100 pounds a couple of years ago. When I finally hit the big 1-0-0 in December 2013, I released a video showing my progress. Here it is (be sure to scroll all the way to the bottom of the page to see the updated video!):
At that time, I got many positive comments from people who had watched and felt inspired by the video. Comments such as one from a user named Nina who said, “You look BEAUTIFUL!!!!! IF You did it I know I can,” made me feel great–like I was inspiring others to get healthier. Helping others get healthy is an absolutely beautiful thing, something I aspire to do–something that makes me feel good.
Another user said, “Even at your heaviest you are an attractive woman. Now you are unusually good looking. Keep it up. I have just started my journey,” which of course stroked my ego a little.
And Britva613, a fellow Weight Watchers member, said, “What an inspiration!! I also started out a size 24 (well 24-26 by the stretchy labels I wore) I got down to a 16 and am back up to an 18 I just put on the breaks and went back to WW and this video collage is great! Way to go and it looks like you husband lost along with you.”
There were many more really positive comments too, and I’m grateful for them.
And then there were the negative ones. Now, I could publish them or acknowledge them directly, but I won’t, because I don’t want to add fuel to any negativity fires. There was one user who felt so passionately that I had lied about my size and who felt the need to tell me how fat my arms were, rather than to offer support.
While I chose not to respond to the comments, other users jumped in and defended me, which I appreciated. But honestly, I don’t care what some mean-spirited YouTuber thinks. I know what size my jeans are, and guess what? I know my arms are one of my problem areas. Everyone’s body is different, and I know how much better I am than I was before.
So, to the lady who chose to try to bring me down–I feel sorry for you. You’ve obviously got some really difficult issues in your life and maybe it helped you to feel better to try to destroy a random stranger’s self-confidence. But luckily, my confidence doesn’t come from you or anyone else–it’s all about me and what I choose to believe about myself.
And I’m not so unique–everyone gets to decide who they want to be and how they choose to perceive themselves and their lives.
Anyhoo, enough about all of that.
Here’s the big update: I’ve maintained the loss and even dropped a few more pounds. The loss is going slower now of course, but I’m also in a sort of maintenance/loss rotation. I am relatively happy with my size now, actually. I just want to tone up a bit, and maybe lose 30 or 40 more pounds in the long run to reach my ideal weight. But ideal is all in our heads anyway, right? It’s about being happy, healthy and feeling good, for me anyway. 🙂
So here are a few updated photos from 2013 and Jan. 2014.
Jan. 2014 Weight Loss Update: 100+ Plus Loss Maintained, Continued
My friend Sarah shared a Facebook post from her soon-to-be 17-year-old daughter Autumn today that surprised and impressed me.
It seems that this articulate, intelligent young woman has accomplished something that many adults attempt and repeatedly fail–and something many teenagers don’t even realize they need to do until they’re adults. When I read it, I immediately asked Sarah and Autumn if they were OK with my blogging about it.
Autumn has lost more than 40 pounds and is still on the move–and she says she feels better about herself than she ever has. I’m going to share her post below in full. I am so impressed with the level of maturity this girl has going on–what do you think? (You can click the photo at the right to enlarge it, if you’d like!)
“As many of you may know, I’ve lost over twenty pounds. I am happy to announce that I have lost over 40 pounds in total, and losing more every day. I am so grateful to have such supportive friends and family.
Starting at 194 pounds (very left) I could not even comprehend that I would be where I am now, a pleasant 152. I have lost four pant sizes, and I now fit in a medium. I am so blessed to have a family like mine, and truly happy to have the friends that I do.
Ten more pounds and I will be considered not overweight, although. I have never felt as good about myself as I do right now. I am truly happy with myself and life, I have good friends (Maybe because I got rid of the ones that were fake) An adorable boyfriend, and a loving family.
For the first time in my life, I can wake up and say to myself, ‘Today is going to be a good day.’ And look in the mirror and accept that I AM beautiful. I should of never thought of changing myself to please the masses.
I was depressed, I didn’t feel good enough. I didn’t feel like I belonged anywhere, not just because of my weight, but because of how I felt society was. I’m tearing up as I write this status because of how proud I am of myself that I actually surpassed my own goals.
Words cannot describe the feeling of success, and I thank everyone who reads this status. Thank you for supporting me and my goals.”.
Now here’s where it gets really impressive. Autumn doesn’t have an eating disorder, and she isn’t taking pills or powders or eating questionable things. And she’s not starving herself or using any strange voodoo to make the weight loss happen. In fact, she’s doing it the old fashioned way. The only way that really works long-term.
“It’s what everyone else says,” Autumn says. “Fewer calories, lots of water and exercise.”
She adds that it’s important to make sure that when you cut calories you eat things that are nutrient-rich, because it can make you sick if you don’t.
“She got sick,” Sarah tells me. “Had too-low potassium, and she had numbness and tingling in her face and hands.”
They went to the emergency room and they drew blood to make the diagnosis, and the prescription was to eat some bananas. So these days, Autumn’s more careful to get those nutrients into her diet.
When I asked how she stuck to the plan, she said that she constantly had to give herself pep talks.
Color me impressed. Kudos to Autumn! Keep up the good work, sista! 🙂