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Narcissism Test: Do you know a narcissist?

Take the narcissist test to find out if someone in your life could be a narcissist.

Does this person act like they think they're better than you and/or others? Yes, at least some of the time. No, never or hardly ever.

Does this person seem to care how you feel and how others feel about their behavior? Yes, at least some of the time. Only when it's convenient for them or they're in a good mood. No, never or hardly ever.

Does this person claim to be the best or better than others at something specific (or everything)? Yes, and it's unjustified. Yes, but it's the truth. And it's not like they're bragging. Never or hardly ever.

Are they self-confident, but also really caring about you and others in their life? Yes, at least some of the time. Self-confident, yes. Caring? No! Never or hardly ever.

What do they do if someone compliments them? Graciously accept the compliment and move on. Accept the compliment and brag about it afterward. Refuse to accept the compliment by saying something negative about him/herself or pretending not to hear it. Suddenly become the compliment-giver's new best friend, at least for a few minutes. Seem embarrassed or uncomfortable.

How often does this person talk about him/herself? Literally ALL the time. I can't get a word in edgewise. Sometimes, but they also listen and seem to care about other people. Never or almost never.

Do they seem to need to be the center of attention, even when it's not appropriate? Do they make everything all about them? Yes, most of the time or all of the time. Sometimes, and it's pretty frustrating. Never or almost never.

Does this person ever act nice to you or treat you well? Yes, most of the time, actually. They used to act amazing, but now we're pretty comfortable together and have gotten into a routine. But it's all good - we are happy together and comfortable in our relationship as it is today. Every now and then, they just amaze me with how awesome they treat me. But other times, not so much. It's always one extreme or the other. They used to, but not so much anymore. I often wish we could get back to how things were in the beginning, but I know it'll never happen. I can't remember a time they treated me with love and respect - like, ever (or almost never).

Trauma Bonded with a Narcissist? Take the test and find out.

by Angela Atkinson

Are you dealing with trauma bonding?

Are you dealing with trauma bonding? Take this quiz and find out. Trauma bonding is a condition that causes narcissistic abuse victims to develop a psychological dependence on the narcissist as a survival strategy during the abuse. This makes it much harder to let go when the relationship ends.

Do you find yourself alternating between loving/missing the abuser and hating them for the things they've done to you? Yes, at least sometimes. No, never.

Do you ever feel like, even though they abused you in some ways, you sort of owe your abusers something? (Example: they paid for you to go to school, or they gave you a place to live, or they did something else that in some way helped you out) Yes, at least some of the time. No, never.

Do you worry about the abuser and what they will do without you? Do you feel like they NEED you and feel guilty about the idea of staying away? Yes, at least some of the time. No, never.

Do you or did you secretly think you could help your abuser get better or improve somehow? Are you ever mad at yourself for not succeeding? Yes, at least some of the time. No, never.

Do you ever think that, at least in some ways, you deserved the way you were treated because you did something to upset or anger the abuser? Something you KNEW would upset them? Yes, at least some of the time. No, never.

Do you or did you find yourself making excuses for or covering up for your abuser's bad behavior? Yes, at least some of the time. No, never.

Have you stood up for the abuser when someone tried to help you or confront them about their abuse, or about other kinds of toxic behaviors? Yes, at least some of the time. No, never.

Do you or did you allow the abuse to continue in order to keep the peace with this person? Yes, at least some of the time. No, never.

Do you or did you hide and cover up your negative emotions around the abuser in order to keep them calm or make them happy? For example, if you are angry or sad about something, do you pretend to be happy when the abuser is around? Yes, at least some of the time. No, never.

Do you or did you just wish the abuser would love you and be nice to you, despite the way they've treated you? Will you or would you do or have done anything to get that love? Yes, at least some of the time. No, never.

The Facebook Test: How to Tell If You’re a Negative Person

by Angela Atkinson

Do you consider yourself a positive person? Do you think others see you as a positive person? How would you like an opportunity to look at a cross-section of your life to get a feel for how you present yourself and how people perceive you?

Great news–I’ve got the answer, and it won’t cost you a cent. Let’s start here.

I posted this status on Facebook today.

So, it’s not always what you thought it would be. You have two choices: 1. Bitch, moan and make it so much worse with your negative attitude. OR 2. Change your mind, change your perspective–change your whole life with a better attitude and perception of the situation. Feel me?

It was in response to a variety of mini-conversations I’ve had, seen and read/overheard during the past week or so–many of them on Facebook. The fact is that many people are so negative in their thinking and speaking that they don’t give themselves a chance to succeed.

Imaginary Protagonist: Brutus the Blowhard

Take for example my imaginary friend, Brutus, who writes a blog about positivity and actively engages in the community. On the outside, Brutus appears to be a go-getter, a real winner. But, indulge me for a moment here, let’s look a little deeper.

When we look at Brutus’ Facebook test, we see that a large percentage of what Brutus is posting about (and what people are responding to) is focused on the problems in his life–whether they’re financially motivated, relationship-charged or even related to extended family, friends or co-workers, it seems that someone’s always trying to steal his sunshine.

Given this news, Brutus, though initially in denial and a little frustrated by the results, he might start to change his life for the better in major ways–starting with the way he thinks and the thoughts he puts out into the universe.

How to Perform the Facebook Test on Yourself

The Facebook Test is a simple and easy-to-perform test that requires no special tools.

1. To start, all you need to do is login to your Facebook profile and look at your cover photo. In the lower right-hand corner, you’ll see a box that says “Activity Log.” Click it.

2. In the left side menu, click the “your posts” link.

3. Scroll through your posts for the most recent month. Count how many were of a positive nature (as in they focused on the kind of life you WANT and not what you don’t want) and record that number.

4. Now count how many were of a negative nature (as in they discussed problems, concerns and worries you have about things that have gone or could go wrong in your life and record that number.

5. Which number is greater and by how much? When your positive number higher than your negative number, you’re on the right track. If your positive number is, in relation to your negative number, significantly higher, you’re pulling into the right station.

6. Repeat the above steps on the other sections, such as posts you’re tagged in, posts you’ve hidden, posts you’ve liked, posts by others, etc. This will give you an idea of how others perceive you.

Tally It Up

So how did you do? What does your score tell you about yourself? Are you a positive or a negative person? What are you going to do about it? Share your results in the comments section, below.