Slow Down: 6 Reasons You Should Be Eating Slower

Slow Down: 6 Reasons You Should Be Eating Slower

“The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age.” ~ Lucille Ball

How to Eat What You Want and Lose WeightOne in four Americans eats fast food each day. Who can blame us? Times are different these days. Thanks to crazy-busy schedules, we rush around like chickens with our heads cut off–and before we know, it’s time to eat.

Cooking and food can seem like more of an annoyance than a gift, so we just pick up the fastest, easiest thing we can find and eat quickly so we can get back to our seemingly endless list of tasks.

So how does eating slower help with our fast-food diet, or any diet at all?

Eating slower is powerful in several ways. It’s an easy way to begin to reverse a harried lifestyle. It’s not difficult. You simply take smaller bites, chew slower and more thoroughly, and enjoy your meal for a greater length of time.

Two decades ago, the Slow Food Movement was started in Italy as a way to counteract everything that fast food stands for.

There are several reasons you might want to consider eating slower:

You’ll sleep better. Eating too much in the evening is sure way to disrupt your sleep.

By eating slower, which leads to improved digestion, your sleep is sure to be more restful. Disturbed sleep is one of the top complaints doctors receive.

Your mind will be less stressed.

The simple act of eating slower can begin to counter a hectic, stressful lifestyle. Sit down and enjoy your meal, your friends and family, and your life.

You will enjoy your food more.

You’ll be surprised at just how much flavor some foods have if you’ll eat them slower. This is especially true of many foods that you might consider to be bland. Slowing down will give you the same amount of pleasure with far fewer calories.

You are also likely to find that many of the unhealthy foods you currently enjoy don’t taste nearly as good if you eat them slowly. Give it a try. Take a food you love, but know you shouldn’t eat. Eat it very slowly and see if you still love it.

Your digestion will improve.

Digestion begins in your mouth. Having food spend a little more time in your mouth makes a big difference. Even more importantly, by chewing your food more completely, you increase the amount of surface area for the enzymes and chemicals in your body to act.

Improved body composition: Numerous studies have shown that we eat less when we eat slower.

How much can you lose from eating slower? According to the studies, about 20 lbs!

  • It takes about 20 minutes for your brain to let you know that you’re full. If you eat too quickly, you can eat a lot more than your body needs.
  1. Your body will be less stressed. Digestion requires a tremendous amount of energy. Some scientists believe that it’s the most energy-intensive process in the body.
  • Further studies have shown that people whom consume the least (without starving) tend to live the longest. All digestion results in harmful metabolic products that must be eliminated from the body.

There are so many benefits to be gained by slowing down at mealtime. It’s an enjoyable way to lose weight and strengthen your physical health. You’ll also sleep better, be more relaxed, and can reconnect with your loved ones.

Start today with one meal. Make a real effort to chew more slowly and completely. Focus only on your meal and other people at the table. What could be easier or more enjoyable?

Slow Down: 6 Reasons You Should Be Eating Slower

Bliss Mission: Stop Feeling Rejected

Fear terror eye

We all have times when we don’t feel particularly comfortable with ourselves. Sometimes, you might wonder whether others actually like you.

It doesn’t make you a weirdo or a loser–we’ve all been there. It’s a normal part of being human. But good news–you can rid yourself of these worries, and it’s probably a lot easier than you think.

So what does fear of rejection look like, anyway?

You might feel scared about meeting new people or getting together with old friends. You think that people might reject you for one of a number of reasons. Maybe you think you’re having a bad hair day or those extra pounds you’ve put on have dampened your self-confidence. All these things can be part of fear of rejection.

Tips to Stop Feeling Rejected by Others

Figure out what really scares you.

Do you fear the opposite sex will be turned off by your looks or the clothes you wear?

Maybe you think that others believe you have a big nose or that you have nothing interesting to say. Are you afraid that you’ll say something silly and embarrass yourself?

The point is that you must know exactly what it is that you fear before you try to tackle it.

Dispute your fear with facts.

Let’s say your fear is that you aren’t as smart as others. When was the last time you were graded on something?

Chances are probably pretty good that you didn’t fail every time.

Acknowledge that there are times when you performed well. Write them down. Stick with reality when it comes to disputing your fears.

Stop worrying so much about what other people think.

If someone doesn’t accept you, that’s their choice. Really, it’s okay if someone doesn’t think you’re smart. You know the truth.

No one gets 100% acceptance 100% of the time. Admit that you can function just fine, live well, and excel, even if someone rejects you.
Even if 5 people reject you today, your life is still going to go on however you’ve planned from this point.

Before going to a party, acknowledge you might encounter someone whom you believe doesn’t like you. You’ll also meet some people who do like you. Also, recognize that you probably won’t know for sure one way or the other whether someone you just met likes you or not.

Exude the qualities you love in others

What makes you attracted to other people? Maybe you like people who show humor or smile a lot. Perhaps you gravitate toward those who are helpful to the host of the party.

Why not try displaying some of those pleasant characteristics that draw you to others? If you demonstrate the qualities that attract you to others, others will most likely be drawn to you as well.

Feel the fear and do it anyway. The best way to get rid of a fear is to repeat the behavior that brings on the fear until you become comfortable and are no longer paralyzed by that fear.

Follow through with attending parties, making the acquaintance of people, and facing your concerns. This is the single best way to learn that your fear is just a human emotion that you can overcome.

It’s time to stop feeling rejected. Banishing your fears of rejection is within your reach. Use what you know about what makes you like other people and let go of how others respond to you. Since fears are just emotions, you can face your worries and apprehensions. Doing so will bring you lasting confidence and satisfaction. Give it a shot!

What do you think? Can you get over the fear of rejection? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below!

Slow Down: 6 Reasons You Should Be Eating Slower

Bliss Mission: Change Your Mind, Have a Great Day

Mr Happy Adventure Team with Bohari Adventures...“The future is not some place we are going, but one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but made. And the activity of making them changes both the maker and their destination.” – John Schaar

Life is full of surprises. In an average day, we all encounter a seemingly endless number of unexpected events can occur that might create stress, worry, and frustration.

But instead of letting these negative emotions take over, what if you were to make a conscious decision to have a great day?

Try these techniques to bring joy to each day:

  1. Use self-suggestion. First thing in the morning, make a conscious decision to have a great day. As you’re brushing your teeth, look yourself in the eye. Tell yourself, “I’m going to have a great day,” and mean it. This is your chance to set yourself up for a fantastic day, whether you’ll be with your family, at work, or hanging out with friends.
  2. Empower yourself. You’re taking control of what might have turned into a negative situation when you decide to allow events to just roll on by and not affect you adversely. Take the bull by the horns and state to yourself what you will and won’t do in a challenging situation.

Own your mood. Refuse to allow someone or something other than yourself to ruin your day.When you do this, you’re saying “no” to negativity. You’re taking a stand. When you’re resolved in this way, your healthy stubbornness will ensure you have a great day.

  1. Recognize what really matters. When you encounter a challenging situation, prompt yourself to see the bigger picture. If one part of a project isn’t going well, identify that you’ve been in similar circumstances before and will most likely be in them again someday. Know, however, that such situations don’t last, and easy times will come again, too.
  2. Remind yourself of the positive. Remember that you still have other things to do today and the trying situation isn’t the only event you’ll encounter. Before the day is out, you might win the lottery or get that promotion you’ve wanted. Or maybe all the traffic lights will be green on your way home. Whether big or small, positive things are likely to happen today.
  3. Consider a challenging event as an adventure. When you look back, you’ll find that many prior situations that you were initially disappointed in turned out to be great opportunities for you. Shift your paradigm from “Oh, this is bad” to “This could be interesting.”
  4. Discover the silver lining. What are the positives about a trying situation? You may feel challenged at first to find something positive about a difficult occurrence. However, with some practice, this will become easier. You’ll eventually be able to identify what the real beauty of the tough event is.

When life gets you down, you always have a choice. You can either let yourself be completely overtaken with the weight of your challenge or decide to have a great day.

Turn negative situations into adventures and seek the silver lining in every challenging event. You have all the power you need within you to make your life as enjoyable as you want it to be!

 

Slow Down: 6 Reasons You Should Be Eating Slower

Six Ways to Stamp Out the Fear of Rejection

gossiping-“A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.” ~Bo Bennett

We have all struggled with feelings of unworthiness or of feeling like we’re just not good enough. Sometimes, we just don’t feel particularly comfortable with ourselves.

If you’ve been in a situation where you suddenly felt that someone didn’t like you or didn’t respect you, even though you had no tangible proof other than “just a feeling”—you’re not alone.

Don’t get me wrong. Sometimes, you’re right. There are unfortunately some very toxic people in the world today (however, they’re NOT your problem–remember that.)

But other times, you might just be projecting your own feelings on to those around you.

For example, if you feel like your boss has a problem with the job you’re doing, maybe it’s because you secretly believe that you could be doing more, doing better. But in reality, your boss might not feel that way at all—maybe you’re just a bit of a perfectionist. Or maybe you don’t love your job.

These kinds of feelings are all a very common part of the human experience—you’re normal, I promise. But the problem with these kinds of common feelings is that they change your energy—and when you focus too much on things that you fear, which brings more of those things into your world. It’s a snowball effect—the fear of rejection and the constant focus on that fear can literally cause you to experience rejection.

On the plus side, it’s possible to drop these kinds of concerns so that you can return to the business of creating the life you want.

So what does fear of rejection look like, anyway?

You might feel scared about meeting new people or getting together with old friends. You think that people might reject you for one of a number of reasons. Maybe you think you’re having a bad hair day or those extra pounds you’ve put on have dampened your self-confidence. All these things can be part of fear of rejection.

Use these solid strategies to banish those fears:

  1. Figure out what, specifically, you’re afraid of. Do you fear the opposite sex will be turned off by your looks or the clothes you wear? Maybe you think that others believe you have a big nose or that you have nothing interesting to say. Are you afraid that you’ll say something silly and embarrass yourself? The point is that you must know exactly what it is that you fear before you try to tackle it.
  2. Dispute your fear with facts. As an example, let’s say your fear is that you aren’t as smart as others. When was the last time you were graded on something? Chances are probably pretty good that you didn’t receive 100% failing grades. Acknowledge that there are times when you performed well. Write them down. Stick with reality when it comes to disputing your fears.
  3. Let go of others’ responses to you. If someone doesn’t accept you, that’s their choice. Really, it’s okay if someone doesn’t think you’re smart. No one gets 100% acceptance 100% of the time.
  4. Admit that you can function just fine, live well, and excel, even if someone rejects you. Even if 5 people reject you today, your life is still going to go on however you’ve planned from this point. Before going to a party, acknowledge you might encounter someone whom you believe doesn’t like you. You’ll also meet some people who do like you. Also, recognize that you probably won’t know for sure one way or the other whether someone you just met likes you or not.
  5. Apply the knowledge you have. What makes you attracted to other people? Maybe you like people who show humor or smile a lot. Perhaps you gravitate toward those who are helpful to the host of the party. Why not try displaying some of those pleasant characteristics that draw you to others? If you demonstrate the qualities that attract you to others, others will most likely be drawn to you as well.
  6. Feel the fear and do it anyway. The best way to get rid of a fear is to repeat the behavior that brings on the fear until you become comfortable and are no longer paralyzed by that fear. Follow through with attending parties, making the acquaintance of people, and facing your concerns. This is the single best way to learn that your fear is just a human emotion that you can overcome.

Friends, you can do this. Banishing your fears of rejection is totally within your reach. Use what you know about what makes you like other people and let go of how others respond to you. Since fears are just emotions, you can face your worries and apprehensions. Doing so will bring you lasting confidence and satisfaction.

How do you deal with the fear of rejection? Share your thoughts and feelings in the comments section, below.

Slow Down: 6 Reasons You Should Be Eating Slower

Rock Bottom: Who’s the Big Girl Kissing My Husband?

Editor’s note: Please join us in welcoming our new columnist, Sarah Aarssen. Sarah has lost more than 50 pounds so far (and counting) and she’ll be  a regular contributor here at Project Blissful.

By Sarah Aarssen

sarahsfamWhen you hear people tell their “stories” they always talk about hitting rock bottom.

For the drug addict rock bottom was when he snatched the purse from the little old neighbor lady who used to bake him his favorite cookies in the winter, knocking her down and breaking her fragile hip.

For the alcoholic rock bottom was when she smacked her innocent child’s face in a fit of drunken anger or when he smashed his car into a tree killing his best friend.

Rock bottom is always a tragic story.

It’s never very pretty. Nobody ever says “I really hit rock bottom when I drank myself silly at a party and ran around the neighborhood naked on a dare.” No drug addicts story begins with “I knew I had to turn my life around when I was no longer able to afford my weekly massages at the spa.”

Rock bottom is always a gross, murky, muddy, messy, bloody, dirty, shameful tragic turning point in a person’s life. But even below all the muddiness, below all the layers of guilt, shame and filth, beyond the grief, beyond all of that… there shines a light. It may be a small little pin light that is barely flickering, but there’s a definite light.

You will also hear people say that you have to hit rock bottom before you can move forward.

I don’t know if I totally believe that. I don’t believe you have to be in the gutter before you can realize you’re on the wrong path. I don’t think you have to go ‘all the way’ before realizing you don’t like this roller coaster ride and you’d like to get of please. You don’t have to knock your elderly neighbor down, snatching her handbag, before you realize “hey, I think I might have screwed up somewhere along the way.”

But I do believe that there was a point in my life where I said “what in the hell am I doing to myself.” It wasn’t when I looked in a mirror. It wasn’t when my arse got stuck in a chair. It wasn’t when I stepped on the scale. It wasn’t even when I went shopping and couldn’t find anything in my size.

That defining moment, my “rock bottom” happened at work.

We had just had our company BBQ and a coworker had taken some pictures and sent them out via e mail to all of us. Amongst all the great pictues of the beach, the food, friends, the sunset there was my rock bottom.

I saw a picture of myself and didn’t even recognize me. I can sort of see my face in that picture but whose arms are those? Hey that big girl has on my shirt… and my skirt…and is standing next to my husband… kissing him… HEY! THAT’S ME!!!!

Oh my God. That is me. I quickly closed the picture but I knew everybody else in the office would see it. But hey, it’s what they see in me every day. That is what I look like. That is what everybody at the office sees when they look at me. That is what people see in the grocery store, in the mall, in the bank. Everywhere I go, that is what people see. THAT is what I look like.

Gross.

I went home that night and cried. I laid on my bed and just cried. Marco came and laid with me, held me close and asked me what was wrong. Between sniffles and sobs I managed to get it out.

“I’m so gross. I can’t believe what I’ve done to myself. Look at me!”

Of course he said all the right things. He told me how wonderful I was, how beautiful I was. what a great person I am.

He said everything a husband is supposed to say. But as much as I knew that he meant what he was saying, I also knew that I could not go on this way.

From that day on we made changes.

Yes we, he and I, both made changes. He vowed to help me in whatever way he could and from that day on we began our new journey together. We haven’t turned back since.

So I didn’t need to have a heart attack at 40 to snap myself into reality. I didn’t have to learn that I have diabetes before saying “Wake up Sarah!”. All I needed was one picture, one life changing, defining picture was enough to show me that little pin light flickering in the dark.

Have you hit “rock bottom” before? How did it feel? What did you do next? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section, below.

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