Deal With a Narcissist’s Attacks: Safe Use of the Gray Rock Method

Deal With a Narcissist’s Attacks: Safe Use of the Gray Rock Method

Narcissists have a way of sucking all the joy from your life. For example, you may have experienced the situation in which the narcissist tries repeatedly to argue with you, but you foil him or her again and again. You finally give up and retreat into blessed dissociation, the only sanctuary you have from this toxic abuse.

Before long, s/he’s popping in and out of the room, desperately trying to pick a fight. Pretending to be light and breezy¬†– maybe even charming – but just under the surface bubbles up the toxic bile he’s about to spew upon you.

You can feel his/her energy practically scalding you as the narcissist enters the room – it’s so intense you can almost feel him/her buzzing with vindictive venom, prepared to strike out for any infraction, real or perceived.

The narcissist grows tired of being ignored: s/he needs to be the center of attention. He or she goes on about the business of shamelessly placing all of the blame for everything that’s wrong in your lives squarely on your shoulders – as usual. He (or she) calls you lazy, stupid … not good enough – or whatever his version of that is. The gaslighting begins, and you find yourself freezing – or falling into flight or flight mode – without even realizing it.

S/he pulls trigger after trigger – literally trying everything to get your attention so he can unleash his pent up narcissistic rage all over you and finally relieve himself of the pain.

He uses you like a drug, to soothe his guilty and self-hating soul. As he spews his bile, you are melted, bit by bit. Now you make a choice on how to react. It’s time you learn how to use the gray rock method – safely.

Let’s Talk About the Gray Rock Method

Communicating with a narcissist can be frustrating, especially when it matters that they comprehend what you’re saying. They will be thicker than concrete walls, intentionally trying to misunderstand you and assume the worst of you, in every single word.

The Gray Rock Method will help you to communicate effectively with a narcissist and avoid drama as much as possible. It’s the only way that you’ll ever be able to have any control over a narcissist at all – and the only means of effective communication in the long run. You may have heard of the gray rock method before, especially if you know you’re dealing with a toxic narcissist. But you may not realize that there’s a very real danger in using this technique – and it isn’t what you suspect (it doesn’t have anything to do with the narcissist directly!).

In this video, I’ll explain what the gray rock method is, and I’ll tell you who invented it – plus, I’ll offer tips and ideas on using the method to communicate effectively with a narcissist – plus I’ll fill you in on what the dangerous part of the gray rock method really is – and how you can avoid it.

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