New Research Reveals the ‘Dark Core’ of Personality: The D Factor

New Research Reveals the ‘Dark Core’ of Personality: The D Factor

Dark Core of Personality Defined: New Study Exposes the D Factor in Dark Triad Qualities

Psychologists define ‘the dark core of personality’ – D-FACTOR Egoism, Machiavellianism, narcissism, psychopathy, sadism, spitefulness, and others are among the traits that stand for the malevolent dark sides of human personality. As results from a recently published German-Danish research project show, these traits share a common ‘dark core’. So, if you have one of these tendencies, you are also likely to have one or more of the others. In this video, I outline the study and explain what it means to you. Read the full study here.

How to Start Feeling Again After Narcissistic Abuse

How to Start Feeling Again After Narcissistic Abuse

Overcoming emotional numbness and dissociation after narcissistic abuse with mindfulness meditation and practices

When you’re working on healing from trauma bonding with someone with NPD, there are a lot of forces at work against you sometimes – often, your own mind after all of the narcissistic abuse you experienced in a toxic relationship.

You may feel emotionally numb and devastated, and you don’t even know how to FEEL anything anymore – the solution to this is mindfulness, and that’s what this video covers.

The way that you conduct yourself in your personal and professional life begins with how you use your mind. You can teach your mind to accept yourself and gain empowerment – or you can stay stuck in self-defeating behaviors.

You are what you think. When you want to introduce change into your life, you need to first accept and empower yourself before you begin altering anything. Your mind is the greatest tool that you have for living the best possible life that you can live.

Countless studies have shown that the brain is constantly working. Your brain can be wired to think or cause you to act in a certain way based on how you handle your mind’s ability to tap into your subconscious mind.

When you practice mindfulness, you can empower yourself and fine tune the subconscious abilities that you have. Using mindful strategies, you’ll be able to focus better, lower your stress and boost your confidence and self-esteem.

Once you learn to accept yourself, you’ll be able to have compassion for yourself, too. This will defeat any negative internal talk that you may have been practicing. Meditation is a strategy that you can use to achieve mindfulness in order to accept and empower yourself.

It helps users quiet the mind so that they can be fully in the present and accepting of the emotions and thoughts that they have. Choose a place where you’ll be comfortable so that you’ll be able to feel relaxed.

Some people choose to sit while meditating and others prefer to lie down. You can also practice mindful meditation while you’re walking outside or in your home. Relax and focus on what’s around you and how you’re inhaling and exhaling.

Be aware of the sensations you feel and the emotions that you’re experiencing. Another strategy that’s often used is deep breathing. You can start this the same way that you would with mindful meditation where you find a comfortable place and begin.

But you can also practice deep breathing while you’re active at home or at work. You focus on drawing in deep breaths and slowly releasing them. You can also use mindful replacement techniques.

These are strategies that call for you to be aware of the thoughts that you think about yourself rather than simply letting them pass through your mind. Whenever any negative self talk pops into your mind, you make a conscious choice to stop and correct the thought.

You correct it by replacing it with affirming words that help you accept yourself as you are. This helps you reprogram your thoughts to enable you to feel empowered rather than listening to words that hinder you and create self-doubt.

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More Resources to Help


Toxic Narcissist in Your Life? 35+ Tools and Resources That Can Help

Toxic Narcissist in Your Life? 35+ Tools and Resources That Can Help

Update: Click here to visit our new resources center. 

Looking for tools, tips, resources and help with a narcissist in your life? Then you’ve come to the right place. I’ve collected more than 35 of them for you, right here.

I have written several books on narcissism, but I know that not everyone can have books delivered and/or doesn’t have the cash for the Kindle editions. Or maybe they’re afraid of being found out by their very controlling narc.

Listen, I’m not here to judge. I feel you. TRUST ME.

At any rate, that’s why I’ve put together a few links for you here. If you bookmark this post and/or this site, you can refer back to it as needed to get the virtual support and/ir validation that you need.

Consider this site your very own sort of “online ebook” of sorts – no charge, no strings attached. Just because I know how important it is to know that you’re not crazy when you’re in the thick of a relationship with a narcissist.

Is there a narcissist in your life?

Your narcissist could be anyone – your spouse, your child, your mother, your father, your boss – even your best friend or your neighbor. Here are some tips for identifying the one(s) in your life.

What is the definition of a toxic narcissist?

It’s confusing for a lot of people because people think being narcissistic means you take a bunch of selfies and care about how you look. But that’s not necessarily a toxic narcissist – the fact is that every human alive has a certain amount of narcissism in their makeup – it’s self-interest. It’s what makes us get up and get ourselves dressed, feed ourselves, get jobs, get married, have kids – it’s the part of us that prevents us from just giving up entirely.

But a toxic narcissist (or a person with NPD), is someone who has no ability to empathize with other people and who treats the people closest to them accordingly. The toxic narcissist is also referred to as a malignant narcissist.

What’s the difference between narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder and high self-esteem?

 

Are you being manipulated by the narcissist?

We all know that narcissists are master devastating emotional scars narcissism quotemanipulators.

Here are some posts to help you identify and recognize the manipulation.

Can you take control of the situation and/or overpower the narcissist?

beat a narcissist at his own gameIndeed you can, my friend, if you’re willing to stand up for yourself – at least temporarily. Once you’ve recognized the situation, you’re already one step closer. Now you need to know how to get through it. Try these posts for help and ideas.

Can you make the narcissist be nice to you WITHOUT acting like a narcissist yourself?

Yes, absolutely – and it can be done in two ethical, repeatable steps – check it out right here.

Can a narcissist ever really love?

I think we both know the answer to that question, but just in case:

What are some other ways a narcissist will manipulate me?

You might already know all about gaslighting, but that’s just one way that narcissists manipulate people. Here are a few others.

Can you show me an example of real-life gaslighting?

I don’t usually share many personal stories about the gaslighting I have experienced in my life but recently, a well-known narcissist actually gave me a little bit of an unrealized opportunity by actually gaslighting me online.

Oh yea. Online.

What if leaving my narcissist isn’t an option?

It’s not always, and you and I both know this. Unless you’re being physically abused, sometimes it feels like the wolf you know is better than the one that you don’t. But here are some posts to help you get your head in the right place and tools to help you be happier.

Is there a course or class I can take to help me recover from narcissistic abuse?

Absolutely! On this page, you’ll find all kinds of freebies, some of which include online courses. You can also visit Life Makeover Academy, NarcissismSupportCoach.com, or take my Udemy course that helps you to take back your life after narcissistic abuse, right here.

See My Books About Narcissism 

See all of my books, including those on topics such as weight loss and how to be a hot wife at BooksAngieWrote.com.

See the most recent posts about narcissism, gaslighting, and toxic relationships right here. If you have any resources for victims of narcissism in relationships, please share them in the comments section, below. 

New Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Research Project: Help Me Help You

New Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Research Project: Help Me Help You

My career has always been about communication and understanding, and about making life better, in one way or another.

Since I first dipped my toe into the lovely sea of blogging back in 2003 (with my personal weight loss blog), and even before that, when I was a high school student helping to create my school yearbook (and essentially the collective memories of a cross-section of Gen Xers), I have understood that writing offers me the ability to both learn and understand, but also to teach and communicate.

The world is a funny place sometimes. After I experienced the second case of narcissistic abuse in my life, I started trying to figure out what had happened, why it happened and how I could prevent it from happening again.

Related: Take my free 5-day fear-busting email course for narcissistic abuse survivors – it’s about overcoming the fear and dissocaiiton that comes with experiencing and having experienced toxic emotional and mental abuse at the hands of a narcissist. (No strings attached.)

So, as always, I did what I do: I started researching, just for my own benefit. And being the nerdy writer-journalist type I am, I blogged my findings and worked on figuring out how it was all connected – why was I attracting these people into my life? Was it something I was doing wrong when I was connecting with people? 

If I’m being honest with you, I never expected to become an expert on the topic of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. But over the next few years, each time I’d publish on the topic, I’d get tons of feedback and emails and private messages from people saying that I had helped them in some way, or asking me questions on how they should or could deal with their own situations.

I wanted so desperately to help them, and I wanted to help as many people as I could.

The idea that simple INFORMATION, SUPPORT and ENCOURAGEMENT could help so many suffering people made my heart soar, and I became driven.

In fact, these amazing souls who were touched by my work and who reached out to me are the ones who inspired me to keep researching, learning and helping others to understand this toxic disease. All of this is literally what led me to become a certified life coach.

So, in my efforts to help as many people as possible, I’ve created all kinds of literature, booksvideos, online courses and other material designed to help people recover from narcissistic abuse and go on to create the lives they want and deserve – as well as to become the best possible versions of themselves.

These efforts have brought forth a variety of supporters, as well as a few haters (but hey, what can you do?). But they have also connected me with some pretty amazing experts, professionals, scholars and researchers. 

One of the “good ones” I’ve recently connected with is a PhD who is a former professor and researcher herself. Since she’s also a a narcissistic abuse survivor, I’m going to keep her identity under wraps – but I’m excited to share some of our recent discussion with you – and I hope you’ll consider helping me in my research.

That’s why I’m launching a new ongoing research project, and I’m starting with this study. Please take a moment to read it and take the attached one-question survey – let me know your thoughts!

One more thing: I’ve set up a private Facebook group for people who are interested in participating in the anonymous research part of it. The information you would share would remain anonymous by default – HOWEVER, if you’d like a credit in the resulting material, I’m happy to give it to you. 

All you need to do is let me know.  Here’s your “official” invite!Narcissistic Abuse Research Collective

Join the private research group on Facebook right here. And if you’re looking for more of a support group, please join my SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissistic abuse in relationships) group, right here

Video: Overcoming Dissociation After Narcissistic Abuse

Video: Overcoming Dissociation After Narcissistic Abuse

How does dissociation as a result of gaslighting and mental abuse affect your life? What symptoms are involved?

Though it may initially seem harmless, your ability to “tune out” the world, and though some people may almost find your “spaciness” rather adorable, the truth is that there are plenty of less than desirable consequences that come along with dissociation.

There are five pretty common symptoms of dissociation that can significantly affect your life, and there’s one that is less common but potentially more devastating in some ways.

  • Depersonalization: the sense of being outside of or disconnected from your body – feeling like you’re not in your body. You might even feel like you don’t recognize yourself in the mirror. You feel detached from yourself.
  • Derealization: when the world feels “fake” or contrived. People who are affected by derealization often describe this symptom as a “fog” or like they see the world from “far away” or through a veil. Some say it’s like watching a movie rather than actually participating in life.
  • Dissociative amnesia: a particular type of amnesia that is specific to people with dissociation that blocks out personal details, such as incidents of abuse and manipulation, blocks of time – from minutes to years – and more. Often, people say that they just forget what they’re talking about – but it’s not just your standard forgetfulness – it’s a significant issue that may even become embarrassing at times.
  • Identity confusion: a condition in which you experience seriously conflicted feelings within yourself; for example, you might find that you’re doing things that aren’t like you – such as driving recklessly or doing drugs; and while part of you find this behavior thrilling, the other part of you is disgusted by it.
  • Identity alteration: a shocking condition in which parts of you are very defined and separate from other parts – this is similar to a condition that used to be called multiple personality disorder. It’s far less common but does occasionally manifest in victims of narcissistic abuse.

Read more about dissociation and narcissistic abuse recovery.

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