“Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.” ~Henry Ford
Skeptics will tell you that the law of attraction is just a bunch of hocus-pocus.
Some will even claim to have tested the law, and they’ll tell you that it just doesn’t work–even though many quantum physicists, philosophers and teachers say otherwise.
Law of Attraction for Skeptics : The Case of Ben
Consider the case of Ben, the 32 year old single man who claims that he desperately wants to get married.
He says he’s always looking for Miss Right, and that every time he thinks he’s found her, something prevents the relationship from continuing–one or the other finds a reason it can’t work.
Ben believes that if the law of attraction worked, he’d already be married with a couple of mini-Bens running around. So, he figures it’s all a lie–he’s not getting what he wants.
Law of Attraction for Skeptics: What’s Not Working For Ben
The law of attraction is neutral–it knows no good or bad. It just IS. You don’t get what you WANT–you get what you FOCUS on–what you believe, think about and speak about.
So, when you focus on any particular thing–good or bad–that’s what you attract.
Our skeptic (who claims to want to get married but who focuses on the fact that every relationship he gets involved in fails) is in fact using the law of attraction successfully.
What? He’s using it successfully? Really?
Take a minute to think about this. Ben’s attracting what he focuses on–what he thinks about and says and believes to be true. After all, the vibration he’s sending out into the Universe is “I am a failure in my relationships with women. Every woman I find is wrong for me in some way.”
So, Ben’s getting exactly what he thinks he’ll get–a long line of missed opportunities and unsuccessful relationships.
Law of Attraction for Skeptics: What Ben Should Do Differently
If Ben wants to find Miss Right, he needs to focus on using the law of attraction to his advantage. First things first, he needs to lose all the negativity about his previous relationships. He should take the time to be grateful for the gifts and experiences he received from each one, and forgive himself and his former girlfriends for any negativity that may have occurred during those relationships.
Next, he needs to understand exactly what he’s looking for in a woman. This may seem very obvious, but often times, we don’t really KNOW what we’re looking for. So in Ben’s case, maybe he could write a detailed list of the qualities that his ideal Miss Right would have to help him figure it out. In any case, he needs to ask for what he wants, very specifically.
Ben needs to BELIEVE that he will find his Miss Right. He needs to FEEL the feelings of having the woman of his dreams, and he needs to be grateful for her BEFORE he meets her–because he needs to recognize that she IS out there, just waiting for him to find her.
And then, he just needs to be open to receiving her, and to take inspired action as appropriate.With a simple change in perspective and minor adjustments to his thoughts and words, Ben can use the law of attraction to his advantage.
How About You?
Do you ever find yourself wishing things in your life were different? Thinking that no matter what you do, you can’t get ahead? We’ve all been there–but here’s the good news. Just like Ben, you can change your life by simply changing your mind.
Bliss Mission: Law of Attraction for Skeptics
My challenge to you today is to identify a negative perception that is holding you back, and to change it. So, for example, if you’d like to have more money in your life, quit focusing on being broke–and start being grateful for the abundant flow of cash that’s coming toward you right now. Really BELIEVE that you’re getting what you want. Remember the old saying–as within, so without. What you think, say and believe truly is is what you’ll receive.
What do you think? Share your thoughts and feelings in the comments section, below!
When I was fifteen, I read an article in a teen magazine called “Fake It Till Ya Make It,” in which the author explained that if you wanted to change things about yourself or your life, you only needed to “act as if” it were already the case.
For example, she said that if you wanted to become more popular in school, you should behave as though that were already the case. So, one might be more open and friendly with other students, or one might be more likely to volunteer for clubs and other student activities.
I applied this concept to my life at that time, and had some positive results and it still sticks with me to this day. I have used it over the years to overcome various hurdles.
But the idea is that when one focuses on something, when one BELIEVES something, really wants it, it happens. When you become conscious of your thoughts, you can make a difference in the things that you bring into your life.
It can also happen unconsciously. For example, during maternity leave after having my second child, it occurred to me that I wanted to work from home. I focused on this fact, and hard.
Sure, I went back to work. But every day, I thought about being able to work from home. I felt jealous of friends who were able to do it (which was wrong–I should’ve been happy for them–that way things would’ve gone much faster). I read everything I could get my hands on about HOW to work from home, and I discussed it with my husband. I talked about it with my friends, family, anyone who would listen. I wanted it, badly.
And one day, even though I had just been informed of a forthcoming promotion the day before, my boss called me into his office and fired me.
Of course, I asked him why, and he didn’t have a logical answer. I felt horribly insulted and upset, but when I drove away that day, I realized that I was feeling lighter than I had in months. I called my husband and told him.
That night, my husband and I decided that it was time for me to try working from home for awhile. I’ve always been a writer and editor (even when I was working in different fields, even when it wasn’t technically my job–so the transition was natural and totally motivation-based).
And here I am, years later, working from home and following my passions at the same time. This is something I never thought I’d do, much less love, but I am and I do. I am so grateful for the opportunity.
Speaking of gratitude, that is the first step to all of this. Remembering to be grateful for the things you have (and expressing gratitude for those things you WANT) seems to be a great starting point.
A few years ago, a friend gave me a copy of “The Secret.” This is yet another example of this concept bringing itself to the forefront in my life. I have to believe that there’s a reason for it.
So here I go, learning to live again, learning to change my mind. And by changing my mind, I am making positive changes in my life. It’s amazing really, but it’s something that truly works.
I could list example after example of how this concept has affected my life, and have used it both consciously and unconsciously many times.
As I begin this new phase in my life, I am focusing now on the power of thought. I am making a concerted effort to be aware of my thoughts, and to avoid saying, doing, or thinking negative thoughts about myself or my world.
I’m no saint, of course, and occasionally I still let the mundane things get to me.
However, instead of dwelling on things and letting them ruin my day (like the cranky husband in the morning for example!!), I focus on the positive things and move forward. (I’m grateful that my husband goes to work every day to take care of our family financially so that I can take care of them in other ways…etc.)
It works, folks, and this is just the beginning. Join me, if you will, on this journey of self discovery and self empowerment. Remember this: YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK.
Live it, learn it, love it. It’s real.
What do you think? Tell me in the comments section, below!
“Most people define themselves by this finite body, but you’re not a finite body… I mean even under a microscope you’re an energy field. What we know about energy is this… You go to a quantum physicist and you say “What creates the world?” And he or she will say energy. Well describe Energy. Okay. It can never be created or destroyed. It always was and always has been. Everything that ever existed always exists.
It’s moving into form, through form and out of form. Okay, great. You go to a Theologian and you ask the question “What created the Universe?” And he or she will say God. Okay, describe God. Always has and always has been, never can be created or destroyed all that ever was always will be always moving into form, through form and out of form.You see it’s the same description, just different terminology. And so, if you think you’re this meat suit running around , think again. You’re a spiritual being. You’re an energy field operating in a larger energy field.” ~James Arthur Ray
I came across this excerpt while flipping through The Secret awhile back, and I knew I had to share it with you.It occurs to me that as our society becomes increasingly tolerant of certain differences, it also becomes more body-conscious–which can have the unfortunate effect of causing many people to feel inadequate or unattractive in comparison to society’s ideal body types.And, while I’m sure there are a few of you out there who have no complaints about your physical bodies, I’m willing to bet you’re the minority. Most people have at least one thing they don’t like about their physical appearance, and many have more than one.
The connection that Mr. Ray makes between ourselves and the divine seems to indicate that science and religion may be getting closer to the same page–and, on a similar note, seems to affirm the law of attraction.
That said, the final couple of lines is really what grabbed my attention here–the idea that our bodies are not, in fact, “meat suits” and that in reality, they’re spiritual beings in and of themselves.
So what does this mean for our body images? Well, quite simply, we’re a product of our thoughts. That is, when we spend time lamenting on the things we don’t like and ignore those things we love about ourselves, we manifest more of those things we don’t like.
For example, if we want to get thinner and healthier, we set out to lose weight. We think about losing weight, we talk about losing weight and we focus on losing weight. So, we lose weight…and we then talk about having lost it, and so on.
However, this kind of thinking can lead to temporary success at best–because when you’re focusing on LOSING WEIGHT, you are bringing the need to lose weight back into your life, if you catch my drift.
Focusing on health instead, focusing on fitness, on feeling good…this is how to get there. Think in the affirmative–about what you WANT, not what you don’t.
This idea can be applied to any area in your life, of course.
In relation to your body specifically though, it seems simple. Want to get rid of pimples? Focus on having clear skin. Hair getting a little thin? Focus on having thick, beautiful hair.
It’s really a lot less complicated than you might expect.
If you cannot learn to love (and be grateful) for your body as it is today, and as you hope it will become one day, you cannot achieve your goals. Focus on what you WANT, not what you don’t–it’s that simple.
Be grateful for your sight, your hearing, your sense of touch. Enjoy tasting foods, walking around in the world, being able to talk to your friends. Remember that your body works hard for you every day, and be grateful for all that it allows you to do.
Remember, your body is not just a “meat suit”–it’s a spiritual being. It’s as divine as your soul. Beginning to recognize it and treat it as such will bring you closer to your own personal fulfillment and to a new level of enlightenment.
So, your Fit Mission today is to be conscious of negative body thoughts and words that creep into your day. Make the choice to change your mind in relation to your body image issues. When you have a negative thought or speak negatively about your body, intentionally change it. Focus on the good instead, and be grateful for it.