Narcissists Use Sleep Deprivation to Control You in Toxic Relationships – It’s all part of the manipulation, gaslighting and mind-games in a toxic relationship. Whether you’re going through a divorce with a narcissist or a breakup – or just going no contact after far too long – this is the video for you.
As we’re going through narcissistic abuse recovery, we tend to notice how big things affect our mood. Taking a vacation, marriage, divorce, death and serious financial issues are a few of the big items. However, small things can also impact your mood is a big way, and the small things happen more frequently. Understanding the small, day-to-day experiences that impact your mood is important.
Many of the smaller things in life can affect your mood:
1. Dehydration. If you’re feeling sluggish or irritable, you might just need a drink of water. Some people don’t have the benefit of good thirst mechanisms. Have a glass of water at least every few hours. Your mood might improve considerably.
2. Music. There are at least a few songs that impact your mood in a positive way. It only takes a moment of listening before you can feel your mood shift. Try to listen to a few songs you love each day. Upload them to your smart phone so they’re always handy.
3. Scents. Certain smells can alter your mood. Your smelly cubical mate has one effect. A scent that reminds you of your all-time best date has a different effect. * Are there any scents that you love? Find a candle or air freshener that mimics a smell you enjoy.
4. Weather. Too hot, too cold, too wet, too dry, or just right. A nice day lifts your mood. A dark, rainy day can drag it down.
5. Compliments. Receiving a compliment is sure to enhance your mood. Just a few kind words can have a big impact. Giving compliments can have a positive effect on your mood, too. The opposite is also true. A few unkind words can result in a bad mood. Keep that in mind when you’re talking to others.
6. Sleep. If you have children, you know what they’re like when sleep-deprived. You’re not much better! Ensure that you’re getting enough sleep that your mood isn’t being affected negatively.
7. Your posture. Studies have shown that slouching results in more negative thoughts, and standing or sitting up straight results in more positive thinking.
8. The food you consume. It’s common to have a mild reaction to certain foods and not even be aware of it. Try eliminating certain foods from your diet for a couple of days and see if it changes how you feel. Eliminate one at a time or you won’t be sure which food causes issues. The most common culprits are:
- Peanuts, which aren’t actually a nut.
- Anything with a high sugar content.
9. Financial issues. You might not consider financial issues to be a “small thing,” but even small financial issues can harm your mood. For example, one unexpected bill can create a lot of emotional turmoil.
10. Spending a lot of time with negative people. Whether it’s a coworker, family member, or friend, spending time with a very negative person can sour your mood.
11. Exercise. Interestingly, when you least feel like exercising, doing so seems to have the biggest positive influence on your mood. A brisk walk is all you need to boost your mood. It doesn’t take much to make a difference. You don’t need to purchase a sports car or vacation if you’re looking to boost your mood. There are plenty of smaller things that can change your mood significantly. These small things can occur on a daily basis and are well worth the effort to either seek or avoid. Focus on the small things that enhance or detract from your mood and you’ll enjoy pleasant moods more often.
“The natural state of motherhood is unselfishness. When you become a mother, you are no longer the center of your own universe. You relinquish that position to your children.” ~Jessica Lange
Being a mom is a hard job. And sometimes, you’ve been unselfish for TOO long. You might even feel like just running away.
What would happen if mommies decided to run away from home?
I mean, what if you open the door and run and don’t look back?
Of course this is something I (and most moms) would never do, but sometimes it feels like to have that option would be great.
Moms have to be strong to put up with all the crap we take from our kids, mates and the world.
Unfair Stereotypes: Mommy and Daddy and Kiddo Make Three
Freaking stereotypes! The world looks at being a mom as a duty, not a loving choice. If the woman decides one day to get up pack a bag and just leave, the world would label her as a bad mom.
If a man decides to pick up and leave, the world might think, “Maybe the wife was mean, or to much to handle. Poor guy, he just needed a break.”
If the kid runs away, they are looked at as a troubled teen, attention-seeking or just plain “bad.”
How fair it this crap?
Just My Two Cents! Now, let me hear your feelings on this one in the comments section, below!
Experts say that you spend roughly one-third of your life sleeping. Certainly, you want to make every moment count toward the physical and mental rejuvenation that a good sleep provides! So, how can you enjoy a restful night of slumber?
Put these 8 tips into action now to experience some of the best sleep of your life:
Investigate your evening routine. Think about the activities you’re involved in from the time you walk in the door to the moment your head hits the pillow. The goal is to increase your awareness about what you’re doing and see if it could be interrupting your sleep.
- Are you playing catch-up by bringing work home from the office? If so, your mind may be on overdrive and unable to turn off.
- Do you find yourself consumed with doing household chores like laundry and house-cleaning? In that case, you’re probably lacking time for relaxation.
Plan to be in bed with the lights out for at least eight hours. Do you stay up until after midnight? Try to schedule evening activities early, so you can still get eight hours of sleep.
- If you have trouble falling asleep, you might want to make it eight and a half hours.
Allow time to unwind. If you’re super busy, you’ll probably be rushing around until you finally collapse on the bed in hopes of getting a few winks.
- Instead, give yourself at least an hour to shift gears and relax before bed. Everyone needs some downtime.
Clear your mind from the day’s chaos. Maybe it’s reading your kids a bedtime story or taking 20 minutes to meditate. Focus on shifting your thoughts from the intense to the trivial. A tranquil mind invites more sleep than a chaotic one.
Create an uncluttered, relaxing bedroom environment. Although you may think that a cluttered bedroom is benign, it may be preventing relaxation and interfering with your sleep. Besides, clutter draws dust, which can cause breathing difficulties during the night.
- The first step is to put everything away. Clothes can go into drawers or the closet. Put junk mail and magazines into the recycling bin.
- The second step is to organize what you have left. Place a lamp, reading materials, and your alarm clock on your night stand. Set the scene for a comfortable night’s slumber.
- The third step is dusting. Use a damp cloth and clean all the surfaces in your bedroom each week to ensure an environment where you can breathe easily. If you spend just 15 minutes dusting and tidying your bedroom, you can prevent future clutter.
Turn off electronics at least one hour before bed. The light emanating from backlit screens like cell phones, tablets, and e-readers can trick your body into thinking it’s daylight and time to be awake. Plus, it’s best to rest your eyes from such gadgets before trying to sleep.
Take a warm bath rather than a shower. If you tend to struggle with sleep quality, it may be that your shower routine is invigorating you rather than relaxing you. Sitting for a few minutes in warm water can help your muscles relax and prepare for sleep.
Practice breathing in bed. Take deep breaths through your nose, hold them for five to eight seconds, and exhale slowly through your mouth. Do four of these breaths after you switch off the lights, and you’ll feel your body immediately relax.
Adopt these practices will help you create a restful bedtime routine. When you establish consistent relaxation habits, your body will become accustomed to them, and restful sleep will follow. Soon, you’ll be sawing logs with the best of them. Sweet dreams!