Create the Life You Want: How to Get Literally Everything Your Little Heart Desires

Create the Life You Want: How to Get Literally Everything Your Little Heart Desires

“Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.” ~Albert Einstein
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Become a Human Lie Detector: 3 Ways Get the Truth Out of Anyone

Become a Human Lie Detector: 3 Ways Get the Truth Out of Anyone

“Men are liars. We’ll lie about lying if we have to. I’m an algebra liar. I figure two good lies make a positive.” ~Tim Allen

Can you tell when someone’s lying to you? It’s a power many women possess–a strong sense of intuition to let us know when something’s not right. But that intuition might do no good if you can’t tell exactly WHAT the truth actually is, though, right?

How Can You Get the Truth Out of Someone?

Good news! I’m about to teach you three basic techniques that will help you get the truth out of anyone who isn’t a pathological liar.

1. Use The “Good Cop, Bad Cop” Tactic.

This is one of the most popular lie-detecting techniques in the world. Cops have been using it for centuries or something. So how does good cop, bad cop work exactly? Simple.

Two of you will question, so to speak, the person under scrutiny. One of you will play the good cop while the other one takes on the role of the bad cop. The good cop tells the “suspect” that they are in good hands, that they can get out of the trouble if only they told the truth. And then the bad cop comes in to scare the person into complying.

In this kind of situation, the good cop commonly gets the confession. The good cop gives the person some reassurance that all will be well at last. The bad cop is just a means to an end.

2. Look Them In The Eye.

Another technique  you can use to get the truth out of someone is to ask the person to “look you in the eyes.” This is very effective when used on people who are very close to you. Chances are that anyone you’re close to, say those you consider to be friends or part of the family, will feel terrible for keeping something from you and spill the beans–or you’ll be able to see it in his eyes, at least.

Ask them to look you straight in the eye when you ask an answer, whether verbally or by just meeting their eyes. When the person at issue can’t even meet your gaze, something is up. Get them talking–they’ll slip up eventually.

3. Stay Calm.

Telling a person that you don’t want any drama or that you won’t cause any problems is another option that might help you get the truth out of someone.

People usually lie or hide the truth because they’re afraid of what our reactions will be. If you assure them that you won’t get angry or won’t “punish” them, they’ll be more likely to open up to you.

(Queen Bee QT: Staying calm and promising a peaceful reaction works quite well on most men, but you have to follow through with the promise if you want it to work more than once. But if you “promise not to be mad” and then explode when he admits he watched p*rn or whatever, you can fully expect him to zip his lip next time!))

Knowing how to get the truth out of someone is a very powerful tool–so use it wisely!

What are your best lie-detecting tips? Share them in the comments section, below.

Curiosity and the Cat: It’s a Big Fat Lie

Curiosity and the Cat: It’s a Big Fat Lie

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“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” ~Albert Einstein

When you were a kid, you asked questions–a lot of them. Your curiosity and thirst for knowledge led you to keep asking. People told you that  “curiosity killed the cat” if you got too nosy. You felt really bad for that poor cat, so you slowed down on the questions.

Well, I’m here to tell you that they straight-up lied to you, friends. The cat didn’t die from curiosity. It’s all a lie, an attempt to keep you in the little box that society has made for you.

It’s time to step out of that box and ask some real questions.

Now that you’re an adult, are you still curious? Do you ask questions, or do you assume everything is what it appears to be?

These are so many good reasons to hold onto that sense of inquisitiveness–first and foremost, because you can significantly improve your life and the lives of others with simple curiosity.

Benefits of Asking Questions

Understand the world better. Kids are always trying to get explanations for how and why things work the way they do. The Socratic Method is a powerful teaching tool at any age. Seek the truth and push yourself to get to the bottom of things.

  • Be more observant. Just formulating questions will broaden your horizons. You’ll become more in tune with what’s going on around you and notice patterns.
  • Be a critical thinker. It’s easy to feel bombarded by loads of information and advertising in the Internet age. Some healthy skepticism is needed to sort out fact from fiction.
  • Be an innovator. Challenging the status quo and old assumptions opens us up to positive change. You may discover new ways to trim your grocery budget or spend more time with your family.
  • Be more confident. Maybe you feel foolish asking questions or assume you’re supposed to know everything. Taking risks by opening up to others can actually make you feel more self assured.
  • Open the lines of communication. Consulting with others demonstrates your interest and respect for their knowledge and opinions. That opens the way to improved dialogue.

What to Learn About Your Relationship

  • Are you really compatible? Before you get deeply involved, make sure you’re on the same page about important issues. Do you both want kids? Can you accept each other’s weaknesses?
  • Once you’re in the relationship, it’s not too late. Ask how you can improve together. What can you do to make your spouse or partner feel more loved? How can you be more successful financially? Are you on the same page when it comes to how you want to raise kids or which area of the country you live in? You need to understand what each of you wants and how to best compromise so that both are happy and fulfilled.

Asking these kinds of questions can help you to connect more deeply. It’s easy to talk at a superficial level but stronger bonds form when you probe further. Talk about your core beliefs and greatest challenges. Use the knowledge you gather about yourselves and each other to support each other. Work on improving yourselves, your relationship and your community.

Your Career: Important Questions

  • What do you like to do? Interview yourself. Take an inventory of your leisure activities to identify how you like to spend your time and what gives you the greatest sense of satisfaction.
  • What are you good at?  Explore how you can make a career out of doing what you love. Reach out to others to invite additional suggestions and feedback.
  • How’s your resume looking? Examine your resume. Does it demonstrate a clear career path or are you drifting from one job to the next? Consider the training and experience you’ll need to move closer to your goals.

Other Aspects of Life: Things to Consider

  • Do you feel that your life is meaningful? Draft your own statement of what you want to get out of life and what makes you happy. Others can provide helpful input, but you’re the only one who can answer such questions.
  • What are you grateful for? Practice being thankful for the things that are good in your life, such as your health, family and natural beauty. Keeping your blessings fresh in your mind will elevate your mood, lower your stress and make all your activities feel more effortless.
  • How can you help others? Helping others is one of the most effective sources of lasting gratification. Ask how you can contribute to creating a better world. Remind yourself how much better you feel when you work for the common good instead of focusing on yourself alone.

Never stop asking questions! Becoming more inquisitive will make life more interesting and rewarding. You may even become a better citizen, friend and employee. In any case, you’ll find life more fulfilling when you ask questions.

 

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