Survivor Redemption: The Real Story – Scorned Women Who Used Krazy Glue on a Cheater’s Manhood – Do you recall hearing about the women who super-glued a man’s member to his stomach back in 2009? The media destroyed the women, especially the one who actually used the glue. It turns out that this woman was a victim of narcissistic abuse, and this man was just one in a long line of abusers in her life. If you’re considering Infidelity, think again! The story made national news and international news. THIS is the true story – and you might be shocked to learn exactly what the true crime was in this situation. And who the true predator was. In this video, I’m sharing the REAL story behind this one: http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/09/10/w… And you’ll meet Therese herself – and finally, learn the truth.
As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, there are a few things you may not want to hear. But it’s okay – the truth here is that you’ll be better for knowing them once you dry your eyes. Failing to understand these truths makes life confusing and dissatisfying. Seek the truth and it will set you free.
Understand these truths and increase your understanding of life:
Most people only care about what’s in it for them. The majority of the world doesn’t care if you’re nice to puppies and remember your spouse’s birthday. Do you know what society is composed of? It’s a bunch of people that need things. They need money, food, clothing, self-confidence, comfort, entertainment, and personal satisfaction.
If you can’t provide any of the many needs that society wants to have fulfilled, you’re not going to get the respect and recognition you desire.
It’s important to develop skills, products, or services that satisfy the needs of society. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself being ignored.
The universe isn’t for or against you. Many people are under the illusion that the universe is either on their side or working against them. The earth is but a speck of dust among billions of other specks.
You’re one organism among several millions of species of organisms. It’s estimated there are over 20 million species of microorganisms that live in water. There are 50 birds for every person on the planet.
The universe is neither on your side nor against you. That can be good or bad news, depending on your perspective. You’re responsible for your results.
Your friends and family won’t always be there for you. You’d better be able to cook, clean, make money, brush your teeth, and pay your bills on time. Your friends and family won’t always be available to bail you out when you need something. You might have to find your own way to the airport someday.
You can’t control or change others. This may be the hardest lesson to learn, especially where romantic relationships are concerned. You find someone that comes close to what you’re looking for, except for a few rough areas. You’re certain you can turn them into something you can live with. In most cases, you’d be wrong.
People naturally resist being controlled or changed. Think about how hard it is to change yourself even when you want to change. You want to eat better, lose weight, hit the gym every day, and save more money. But 99% of the time you can’t make those changes.
Now, imagine how hard it would be to change someone that doesn’t want to change. Then add on the fact that they’re resentful and resisting your efforts. You have no chance.
Accept people for what they are. Either change your expectations or expect to be disappointed.
Failure is normal. Failure is par for the course. Expect to experience several failures before attaining results that please you. The only way to avoid failure is to never try. Never trying is the perfect strategy to ensure that you never experience success.
Learn to deal with failure effectively. It’s nothing more than an undesirable result and there’s no reason to take it personally. Adjust your approach and try again.
Do you know the truth about the world? You’re on your own more than you realize. Fortunately, that puts you in the driver’s seat.
Listen to the story of these two beautiful survivors who took revenge on their (unknowingly) shared narcissist in the most beautiful way you can imagine – it’s unbelievably delicious!
A few points of interest:
Tracy and Liselle both happened to be dating the same narcissist – and when they discovered it a few weeks ago, their lives changed for good.
Because of the gaslighting and manipulation they were subjected to by their narcissist, Tracy now has a police record and Liselle had to get a restraining order lifted in order to even be here with us for this interview.
After Liselle was “unceremoniously dumped via Facebook messenger” by the narcissist she’d thought she’d been exclusive with for the past two years, Liselle decided to contact Tracy – and you won’t BELIEVE what happened next.
Learn about “the incident” that led to Tracy being arrested and that eventually led the two to meet. And learn how Tracy quite literally saved Liselle’s life
“You take all their emotional abuse. You take it and take it and then you finally explode verbally. You call him a piece of shit, low-life, asshole, and more. He just ignores it, smirking the whole time because he got me upset. Now he uses this against me. Now, he says I’m verbally abusive! I was just fighting back for my sanity. Could you address this in a video?”
What is deflection in narcissistic abuse?
Unfortunately, this is a very common manipulation tactic that gaslighters use. It’s when you’re being abused but your abuser tries to convince you that you’re the abusive one. Or maybe, if you’re female, they blame it on “that time of the month,” or accuse you of having horrible PMS.
They may label you unreasonable, crazy, an over-reactor – even say you’re making it all up. They assign all blame (literally for every issue or concern) in the relationship to you, and they become offended and angry if they don’t think you seem like you want to accept it.
If you dare to question them or god forbid, get upset and yell back at them, the narcissist will quickly turn the tables and accuse YOU of being the abuser. He or she will do everything possible to run a good smear campaign on you, too, telling everyone around you how crazy or difficult you are – and making you look and feel like someone you’re really just not.
The Narcissistic Flip
One of the most effective kinds of gaslighting is when a narcissist sort of “flips the script” on you during an argument.
I have dubbed this practice the “narcissistic flip,” and have found that it’s a regularly employed manipulation technique for many narcs.
The “flip” happens most often when you make a valid point or have the nerve to question the narc about anything.
That’s about the time everything turns around and suddenly, you’re the one who’s sorry (mostly that you bothered engaging in yet another pointless argument).
What is denial in narcissistic abuse?
Real quick – let’s define denial for our purposes. In this case, we’re talking about the psychological term, which means that someone literally claims that something that DID happen didn’t occur.
So, in the case of narcissists, they use denial of their own behavior when it’s convenient for them – and almost always in situations where they can be considered “at fault” for anything negative.
How do narcissists use denial to manipulate you?
Denial can be used as part of the whole “brainwashing” process that a lot of narcissists use to control their victims. Think about it – while they may have originally employed denial in order to avoid taking responsibility for their own behavior, a lot of narcissists have discovered that denial can be a very effective part of gaslighting.
Narcissists will intentionally say things they know will provoke you into reacting. They’ll bait you and then wait for a response. If you don’t react quickly or dramatically enough, they may poke you further and aggressively antagonize you until you explode.
Then, they tell you that you’re crazy, that you need help – that something is just plain wrong with you.
How do you deal with this kind of manipulation?
Obviously, and almost always, going “no contact” is the ideal solution to dealing with a toxic narcissist. But in the real world, there are other circumstances and things to consider.
Sometimes, you get stuck dealing with a narcissist for whatever reason – you’re co-parenting, you haven’t yet managed to escape – or maybe, it’s a relative or in-law that you can’t practically just “disconnect” from…so you’re forced to deal.
So, the way to deal is to first recognize that the narcissist is trying to get you to react – and that if you do, he or she will absolutely use it against you.
Narcissists and the Blame Game
You have heard of it, right? The so-called blame game is just what I described before – when a narcissist constantly deflects responsibility for his bad behavior and projects it right onto the nearest unwitting victim – often, his or her primary source of supply.
This puts you (as the primary source of narcissistic supply) on constant alert, and you feel the mental and physical effects of always being in a state of stress. It affects your blood pressure, your neurological function, and even your ability to eat and sleep. Other physical effects such as changes in weight and even generally falling ill more often have also been reported by victims.
Examples of the Blame Game in Action
A narcissistic wife is caught lying to her husband about spending an evening alone with a male colleague. She claims, when found out, that she only lied because he always overreacts to everything. In reality, he lives in fear of her erratic and seemingly unprovoked emotional attacks and general invalidation of his character.
A narcissistic husband is found to be cheating on his wife with her best friend. When confronted, he claims that he was treated poorly by his wife, neglected, and overly criticized by her. He claims that he tried to fix the relationship and in reality, he is the one who was mentally abusing HER, and he has engaged her friend as a very toxic flying monkey.
A narcissistic woman has a lunch meeting with a new colleague by whom she is secretly a little threatened. She shows up an hour late, and when the colleague tries to get back to the office on time, she cuts her down for being so uptight and neglecting the opportunity to get to know her.
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