What Are The Pros And Cons Of Joining A Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Group?

What Are The Pros And Cons Of Joining A Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Group?

So, you just went no contact with a narcissistic ex or narcissistic parent, and you are struggling with the trauma associated with the abuse you endured during the time you were in their presence. Maybe you’ve found a therapist, or you’re getting weekly narcissistic abuse recovery coaching, but you feel like need something more when it comes to getting the support you need so you can heal. Or maybe you can’t afford to pay for a therapist or coach, but you find yourself feeling very alone in the world and you just want someone who understands.

Any of these issues can be solved with one single step: you can join a free, online, confidential narcissistic abuse recovery support group.  But, when you’re working on building your support system in your own narcissistic abuse recovery, there are things you need to consider.

Beware of Predatory Groups

There are so many groups out there that are amazing and supportive. But there are those which are more predatory and money-focused, and they can actually do more harm than good for your recovery. This is exactly why it’s so important to be really careful when choosing your recovery support team. Sadly, there are people who claim to be advocating for abuse victims, but who are actually only out to make money. These people sometimes offer support systems that are not only not reliable, but that are often over-priced and which don’t work effectively.

This is often due to the fact that these people aren’t actually survivors, but business people who see our recovery from abuse as a potential cash-cow. Just remember: no matter how good the hype, not everyone who claims to want to help you is genuine. With that being said, the large majority of those who are sharing their experiences and creating support groups around narcissistic abuse recovery will often be very genuine in their efforts as they are survivors themselves.

Get Safe Online Support for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Here’s some good news. Here at QueenBeeing, we are survivors who do what we do to help our fellow survivors – and it’s why the majority of our services (including our online narcissistic abuse recovery support groups) are free. One of the best things about our ever-evolving technology is that you do not need to leave your home to attend any support group meeting. You can hop online to one from the comfort of your own home. This is especially helpful as our society is currently discouraging large in-person group meetings, but also for those who are still actively dealing with the abuse who may struggle to justify a meeting to an abuser. An online group offers you the ability to get support from the comfort of your home (or wherever you happen to be) on your own schedule.

And, sometimes, just being validated by a group can help you to see the truth about your life and can lead you to want to take action to change it – and that is what makes support not only appealing for survivors of narcissistic abuse but truly necessary.

Joining an Online Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Group: Pros and Cons to Consider

Should you join a support group for narcissistic abuse recovery? Let’s take a look at the pros and cons of joining one right now.

The Pros Of Joining A Support Group For Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

The idea of joining a narcissistic abuse recovery support group can be appealing and daunting. However, there are several advantages of doing so, and let’s talk about the pros right now:

  • You can have access to the group 24/7. If you are too busy with work or other duties during the day and don’t have the time to get the most of the groups in the evening, there is no worry about that. The access for you is there at any time of the day and the night. If you need to go into the group at 3 am even, it is there!
  • You can express the pain from the abuse you endured with the narcissist to people who get it –  You are in a group where others like yourself face trauma from having to endure narcissistic abuse. Those who are in the group understand, and by knowing that, you know that you have a safe place to express your pain, sorrow and talk about your trauma. That is because others there understand.
  • You can keep your private experiences private from the people in your “real life.” At least until you’re ready to share with them, by joining a narcissistic abuse recovery support group, you won’t have to worry about talking to a friend about heavy stuff. This might be because you worry they won’t understand where you’re coming from as they haven’t had similar experiences, or it might be that you worry they won’t believe you. And in some cases, you won’t want to share your experiences yet because you don’t even really understand them yourself.
  • You will receive empathy and support, and validation. In a narcissistic abuse recovery support group, you will receive the validation you need and support and empathy because, once again, those in the group understand where you are coming from. You won’t deal with toxic positivity or those who cannot empathize with you, making a world of difference with your recovery.

However, like with anything else, there are both pros and cons. Let’s talk about the cons when it comes to joining a narcissistic abuse recovery support group.

The Cons Of Joining An Abuse Recovery Support Group

You just read about the advantages of joining an abuse recovery support group. Let’s now talk about some of the disadvantages to keep in mind:

  • Some members can troll you – You know that most of the members in groups are there to support you, but unfortunately, there can be trolls who can make your suffering worse. And even if there are members who are not technically trying to stir the pot, they can be rude if they disagree with you, which can upset you even more. The best thing to do in that situation is to notify the group’s admin and block them. In our QueenBeeing SPANily narcissistic abuse recovery support groups, our highly-skilled admin team (also survivors themselves) actively monitors our groups to prevent this as often as possible and actively removes people who violate our safety guidelines in order to keep you safe.
  • You are faced with too many reminders of the abuse you endured – At the beginning of your recovery, you might really need to read about the experiences of others as it can help to validate your own. But eventually, you might find that reading the experiences of others who endured narcissistic abuse and will become too much of a reminder for you. That can sometimes set you back in your recovery. The best thing to do in this situation is to limit the amount of time you spend in these groups. You can also check out the SPANily narcissistic abuse recovery support groups page, where you’ll find a variety of groups for each stage in recovery. This will help you to get the kind of support you need in whichever stage you’ve found yourself in – even if you’re past the abuse and ready to move forward with your new life.
  • You aren’t comfortable sharing your experiences with groups. There are some people who just prefer to avoid sharing their abuse story with a large group of people, and that’s totally okay. Everyone’s journey is different. If you are among those who would prefer to share and heal from your experiences with just one person, you might like to check out our narcissistic abuse recovery coaching page. If you’d prefer a smaller group, you should consider our small group-coaching program.

Before joining a narcissistic abuse recovery group, you will want to weigh the pros and cons and determine whether or not joining a support group is the best thing to do in your particular situation. In some cases, it may not be, which is why you want to think it through thoroughly before taking action.

Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support

Helpful Reading for Narcissistic Abuse Survivors

QueenBeeing’s Growing! Meet Our Newest Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach!

QueenBeeing’s Growing! Meet Our Newest Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach!

Meet QueenBeeing’s New Narcissistic Relationship Recovery Coach, Lise Colucci

Schedule with Lise: https://queenbeeing.com/lise

Lise Colucci is an intuitive healer and certified life coach, as well as a certified narcissistic abuse recovery coach. She is a long-time admin and mentor for the SPAN Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Group, actively helping survivors of narcissistic abuse in the broad community to learn and heal. A big believer in the strength of survivors as well as the power they hold to transform their lives for the better after abuse, Lise is continually learning new ways to help others. She sees the big picture and helps clients to dissect the overwhelming issue of narcissistic abuse into manageable parts. Lise is very knowledgeable in both understanding narcissism as well as the effects of toxic relationships on survivors. Making her even more effective in her work, she also understands how it feels firsthand – she is a survivor herself. Lise is passionate about providing coaching services that help her clients feel heard and validated as she guides them along their healing journey. Lise has certifications in life coaching from Universal Coach Institute as well as a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach certification from Life Makeover Academy. At home, Lise is the mother of four amazing humans. She loves spending time with her kids and dogs.

Don’t worry! You can still get coaching with Angie

How Narcissists Are Like Cult Leaders

How Narcissists Are Like Cult Leaders


If you have ever struggled to figure out how to explain a narcissist to someone who doesn’t get it, this video is for you. As explained by Dana Morningstar from Thrive After Abuse, being with a narcissist is like being in a cult – and I’ll go into detail on how to explain as well as WHY she’s so right!

Just like with a narcissist, when you first learn about a cult, chances are that you aren’t really aware of what you’re getting yourself into. The members and the leader show you their “best” and they draw you in with a process very similar to love bombing.

While they seem to be very generous and loving, often using your own childhood wounds as sort of a “way into your heart,” they are pretty much always based on the cult leader’s desire for personal gain, in one way or another.

These so-called leaders usually use various forms of brainwashing, along with other methods, to slowly and pervasively draw you into their circle of control and before you know it, you’re stuck and feel like you can’t escape.

Top 25 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery FAQ

Top 25 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery FAQ


1. What is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)?

2. What causes NPD? 

3. What are the characteristics or signs of a narcissist? 

4. Do narcissists sometimes have empathy?

5. Is it possible to change a narcissist?

6. Is narcissism a mental illness? 

7. What is narcissistic abuse? 

8. Can a narcissist ever change? 

9. Do narcissists love?

10. Can I love a narcissist? 

11. What is a narcissistic parent?

12. How do you heal from breaking up with or divorcing a narcissist?

13. How do you leave a narcissist? 

14. What is the best way to respond to a narcissist?

15. Are there more female or male narcissists?

16. What is gaslighting? 

17. What are flying monkeys? 

18. Why do narcissists cheat on you?

19. What is love bombing?

20. What is hoovering?

21. Will the narcissist come back after discard?

22. What is the narcissistic relationship cycle?

23. How can I get back at a narcissist? 

24. How can I move on after abuse?

25. Why is recovery from narcissistic abuse so difficult?

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How to Avoid Relapsing on No Contact: 7 Ways to Ensure You Stick It Out

How to Avoid Relapsing on No Contact: 7 Ways to Ensure You Stick It Out

How can you ensure that you don’t break no contact? Here are my best tips and some free resources that can help.

1. Make sure you tell someone you’re going no contact, and that you touch base with them each day. Accountability is intensely helpful – consider this person sort of your “no contact” buddy. If you don’t have a friend or family member you can trust, join an online support group like SPAN and report your success daily! Join SPAN at QueenBeeing.com/SPAN

2. Make a list of all the reasons you’re going no contact, and put it somewhere you can easily access it for those tough moments. Pull it out anytime you feel weak and remind yourself why you’re doing this! Consider having a copy of it on your phone, too – just in case you need it when you’re not at home.

3. Go to QueenBeeing.com/60days and download your free no-contact calendar. The calendar is filled with activities to keep you on track during the early days of no-contact.

4. Take your time and allow your emotions to flow – but not forever. I suggest setting an end-date on your mourning. Choose any day you like, but never longer than 30 days. I suggest anywhere from a weekend to a month, depending on the length and nature of the relationship. When the “mourning phase” is done, decide that it’s time to start your life over again – and really do it!

5. Start focusing on yourself. Consider getting a new look, and start focusing on your passion. Not sure what that is, exactly? Visit QueenBeeing.com/passion and download your free Passion Finder.

6. Get out of the house! When you’re ready, get out and do something different. Check out meetup.com and find a group that shares an interest you have – and be social. It’ll feel weird at first, but even casual contact with the outside world can be so healthy for you. If you need it, there’s an online course at Life Makeover Academy you can take to revamp your social life. Take the course, right here.  Or, try this 3-pack of courses to help you get through it – this one includes a 30-day empowerment bootcamp that you can do in the comfort of your home. 

7. Remember that going no contact opens your life for new and better relationships, once you’ve healed. None of us are getting any younger – and don’t you deserve to be happy? Keep your end goals in mind. Even though it feels easier sometimes to go back to what you know, in the long run, you will be glad you stayed no contact. Trust me.

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