When you are dealing with a narcissist, you might find yourself feeling powerless. Thanks to their various manipulation and gaslighting tactics, you might also question your own sanity and doubt your own reality. But what if you have something on a narcissist, such as catching them in a lie? What if you make it known that you know? What if you question them or push them?
In any of those situations, the narcissist will feel threatened. And, as you may be aware, narcissists who feel threatened in any way will eventually demonstrate narcissistic rage and/or narcissistic injury.
Specifically, that means that narcissists who face injury to their egos will go into a state of rage. They may not show that they’re visibly angry, especially if they’re a covert narcissist. However, covert or otherwise, they will feel vengeful – and if their first response (rage) doesn’t get the kind of reaction they want or expect, chances are that they’ll go into the “poor me” thing – also known as narcissistic injury, or the victim role.
Types of Behaviors You Can Expect from a Narcissist Who Feels Threatened
Here are 5 common things that narcissists do when they feel threatened.
1. They’ll Put Your Job On The Line
Your average narcissist would actually go as far as calling your boss and telling them a lie about something you have done. For instance, they could tell your boss that you have been saying defamatory things about them. There is no proof but they can always become quite creative and make something tangible up. They may also call your workplace over and over again and become a nuisance, which many survivors report has caused them to lose jobs or to at least be reprimanded.
2. Get Involved With Your Relationship
If the narcissist isn’t your partner, they might take it upon themselves to tell your partner that you have been cheating on them, and in some cases, they might even create fake “evidence” of this fictional affair. They could get extremely creative with making it appear believable which can easily cause a breakup to happen. And if the narcissist IS your partner, they may cause drama or trouble in your friendships and other relationships in order to further isolate and control you. The more people they push away from you, the better they feel they can control you.
3. Ruin Your Reputation
Narcissists that feel threatened would do a great job of ruining your reputation. They could spread rumors that are defamatory and can do this online and offline. Some narcissists have been known to create sockpuppet accounts to leave you a lot of bad reviews on your business Google or Facebook page. They hope that any potential future business will fizzle out if they see any bad reviews on your pages. Alternatively, they might tell all of your friends and family members lies and exaggerated stories about you, or they might publicly smear you on social media. We call this the smear campaign.
4. They Will Isolate You From Supportive Friends and Family
As I mentioned earlier, narcissists want to isolate their victims in order to maintain control over you. This is why they tend to push anyone who might be supportive of you away. Threatened narcissists will find a way to contact your friends and family and convince them to turn their backs on you. It may or may not work, depending on whether they trust you or what the narcissist tells them. If they believe the narcissist over you, then that shows that they did not have true faith in you as it was – and like I always say, they weren’t really your people to begin with.
5. They Will Destroy Your Favorite Things
Narcissists don’t pay attention to what interests you (unless it benefits them to do so), but they sure are paying attention to what you value. When they feel threatened, they might target those things you cherish most and ruin them. This could mean they could destroy a painting you love, or vandalize your car, or anything that is dear to you.
Threatening a narcissist is almost never a helpful act. Rather than threaten them, your best bet is to use the gray rock method to manage your emotions when they’re around. If you need help and guidance as far as how to stop a narcissist in their tracks, you’ve got to start by taking away the one thing they really want and need: narcissistic supply – as in your emotional reactions to their behavior. If you want to get revenge on a narcissist the best thing you can do is to ignore them and live your life well WITHOUT them, despite their efforts to be the center of your world.