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“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” ~Wayne Dyer
Have you ever been in a situation where someone has underestimated you in some way? Whether the offender misjudged your intelligence, your abilities or your strength, how did it make you feel?
Did you begin to believe that person was right, or did you feel defensive or angry because you knew he (or she) were wrong?
Nearly everyone has been on the receiving side of an unfair judgment. People judge you on your looks, your age, your weight, your financial (and parental) status, your address, your religion, your career choices (or lack thereof)–the list goes on and on.
This is especially true if they don’t know you personally, but it can even happen within families and friendships.
Even people who have high levels of self-esteem can find themselves feeling frustrated when they’re misjudged–but those who sometimes feel like they’re not good enough anyway can really struggle with feelings of inadequacy if the right insult gets hurled their way.
So how do you deal with people who underestimate you or misjudge you?
Let It Roll Off Your Back
In some situations, you can just ignore the person because you’ll never see or deal with them again. For example, if you’re at a clothing store and a salesperson or fellow customer makes a rude comment to or about you–it can be really upsetting. But if you think about it, once you leave that store, you may literally never see those people again.
And remember, you get to decide who has the power in this situation, so claim it! Don’t give some stranger the power to ruin your day–choose to be happy instead. (And if it helps you, remember that whole “the best revenge is living well” thing.)
Prove Yourself. Or Not.
If the underestimator is someone you know personally, you’ve got some choices to make. If it’s important to you to change that person’s mind about you, then try to do it through actions rather than words.
Don’t confront him or her or try to defend yourself–if you’re being underestimated, the judger is not likely to actually listen to you anyway and you’ll grow more irritated when they won’t hear you or acknowledge the validity of what you’re saying. That’s just inviting negativity into your life.
But really, you need to first get comfortable with yourself, and who you really want to be. When you are comfortable in your own skin–mentally, physically and emotionally–you aren’t likely to feel the need to prove yourself anyway.
When It Hurts
Sometimes, being underestimated can hurt, especially in personal and professional situations. Whether it hurts your feelings or your pocketbook, it can make you feel badly about yourself and/or the people and situations in your life.
The most important thing to do when this happens is to keep it in perspective–are the people who are judging or underestimating you perfect? It’s highly unlikely. Everyone has flaws–and in most cases, one man’s flaw is another man’s treasure. Embrace yourself and remember that you are perfectly YOU–and that’s really all that matters.
Even though it’s easy to feel negatively when you get judged unfairly, you’re only hurting yourself by doing that. Remember that what you put out into the world comes back to you–like attracts like, so if you’re feeling like you’re unfairly judged all the time, you definitely will be.
Remember too that people who feel the need to constantly judge and belittle others are most likely insecure in themselves in one way or another. That means there’s something wrong with them–not you.
You’re Not Alone
Like I said, nearly everyone has been in this situation. Take me for example. I once worked with someone who seemed to think I wasn’t smart enough to pour myself a cup of coffee, let alone actually do the job I’d been hired to do.
I’ll admit, it really pissed me off–especially because I knew for a fact that I was more experienced and capable than this person. I felt like telling her exactly what I thought of her, too.
And–another admission–I was not having very many nice thoughts of her after she blatantly misjudged me without even asking me who I was and what I could do. (She made an incorrect ASSumption. And you know what happens when people ASSume right?)
But even though I had a strong emotional reaction to this behavior, I stepped back and took a logical look at the situation. If I were to blow up and do the diarrhea of the mouth thing, it would very negatively affect my career–and certainly that particular job. So, I decided to change my mind, and I managed to maintain a professional and fairly friendly relationship with this person, despite my personal feelings. And eventually, she got the clue that I knew what I was doing. We actually became “work friends,” even.
And, for me, making peace and finally being recognized for my abilities was a far better alternative to blowing up and ruining the chance that it would ever happen. The moral of the story? Think before you speak–and don’t let the bastards get you down. 🙂
So how about you? Have you ever felt misjudged or underestimated? How did you deal with it? Tell me your story in the comments!
I’ll tell you why.
It’s because they BELIEVE that they can have it all, and they believe they deserve it.
Ever wondered why you can’t get anything right? Well, here it is folks: it’s because you don’t believe you can.
Mary Kay Ash said, “If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.”
My message to you today is simple.
The power you seek to change your life is in your hands.
All you have to do is use it. The really cool part is that it’s so easy–just believe in yourself. Stop doubting yourself, and watch your thoughts.
When you notice negative thoughts, just say to yourself, “I’m now canceling this negative thought and replacing it with this more positive affirmation of my true desires.”
In fact, you don’t even need to be that formal about it–but reciting something to that effect in your head is a great way to distract yourself from the negativity you’re dealing with, and then it’s important that you actually follow through and replace the thought with a positive one.
For example, let’s say you are calling a creditor to explain why your payment will be late.
Before you call, you might worry and tell yourself that they won’t understand and that they’ll be rude or nasty to you.
When you make that call, you find that your fears come true. And here’s the interesting part…it came true because you believed it would.
Next time a situation like that presents itself, take a moment before you deal with it to get focused and calm. Try taking ten deep breaths in, blowing each one out fully before taking in the next.
Visualize yourself being clearly understood and empathized with by the person.
Visualize the situation working out to your best advantage, and really know it.
Tell yourself things will work out in your favor, and really believe it.
Then, pick up the phone and have that conversation.
I’ll bet you have a different outcome this time.
Bottom line: If you can believe it, you can achieve it. It’s a fact.
Learn it, live it, love it!
Do you believe that you can achieve anything?
One of the biggest reasons I created the Project Blissful site is because I wanted to help other people have better lives.
Over the years, I’ve come to understand that all it takes to begin to effect positive change in your life is the ability to believe that you can–that you really can change your life by just changing your mind.
That’s why today, I’m sharing a few of my favorite quotes. I hope they might inspire you to create (or continue to create) the life that you truly desire.
“Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in awhile, or the light won’t come in.” ~Alan Alda
- “The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” ~Oprah Winfrey
- “No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.” ~Barbara de Angelis
- “If we fall, we don’t need self-recrimination or blame or anger – we need a reawakening of our intention and a willingness to re-commit, to be whole-hearted once again.” ~Sharon Salzberg
- “Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” ~Barack Obama
- “What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds.” ~Wayne Dyer
- “There are no prescriptive solutions, no grand designs for grand problems. Life’s solutions lie in the minute particulars involving more and more individual people daring to create their own life and art, daring to listen to the voice within their deepest, original nature, and deeper still, the voice within the earth.” ~Stephen Nachmanovitch
Let’s discuss! Do you believe that you have the power to change your life? Please share your thoughts and feelings in the comments section, below.
We all know someone who seems just have it better than we do. Whether we think someone has a better relationship, a nicer home or vehicle, better-behaved kids, a better job or a flatter stomach, some people seem to have more positivity in their lives than others, right?
They overflow with goodness and abundance, and whether you admire them or envy them, you want to know their secret, because you want your life to be “better” too.
Maybe you figure these lucky people who seem to have so much spiritually, physically and emotionally are just lucky.
Good things just happen to them–they’ve got some special connection or guardian angel or whatever.
But guess what, y’all? There’s no secret club here–by its very nature, abundance is, well, abundant. There’s plenty to go around.
That means that you can have what you want, too. And, even better, there are specific actions you can take to attract positivity and invite more prosperity into your own life.
Start by dealing with your “stuff.”
- Get your stuff in order. When you keep your stuff organized everyday living is easier and less stressful. There’s a place for everything and everything is in its place. This leaves room in your life for abundance.
- Throw out old stuff. If you don’t use it or love it anymore, get rid of it. Clear out clothing, appliances, gadgets and anything else you no longer need. Things that are old, broken, or unable to be cleaned up properly are just taking up space you could use for something that has more value to you.
- Give away some stuff. Whether you pass along magazines you’ve already looked at or clothing that no longer fits, spread some of the abundance you have already. When you give to others, your heart opens up and good things can more easily make their way into your life.
- Put your stuff away–a place for everything, and everything in its place. Provide each of your cherished items with a “home” within your home. When you take care of what you have, you’re acknowledging and showing respect for the abundance that’s already in your life.
- Use the stuff you have. Take advantage of the items you’ve collected over the years. You obviously see them as having value, so why not put them to good use? You’ll feel more positive about life and will get in touch with the abundance you already have when you make use of your stuff.
- Stop buying stuff you don’t need. Make a vow to avoid compulsively buying the next new gadget. If you always want the latest item on the market, look inside yourself and see what that’s all about. Also, remind yourself of all the “stuff” you’ve accumulated that you don’t use. After all, they were at one time the next new thing. Take some time to figure out how you feel whenever you want to buy another new item. Recognize that you’ll hamper your efforts to invite abundance into your life if you keep spending money frivolously on random stuff.
- Ask yourself what “stuff” you really need in your life right now. Learn to distinguish between “wants” and “needs.” If you do, you’ll find it actually takes very little to live a good life with purpose and abundance. As you learn to determine when you actually need something, you’ll experience more confidence in your own abilities to usher in abundance.
Who knew that you could invite abundance in your life just by dealing with your “stuff?”
Bottom line: Whatever route you take to get there, the fact is that there’s no magic secret to happiness. Anyone can cultivate it.
As you begin to truly cherish your “stuff” and take care of your home, you’ll find yourself loving your world and your circumstances more than ever.
That means that your mind will be in tune with abundance and attract more of the same. You’ll begin living the abundant life of which you’ve always dreamed.