157 Best Positive Thinking Quotes to Inspire You When You Are Feeling Down in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

157 Best Positive Thinking Quotes to Inspire You When You Are Feeling Down in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Life can be a little challenging sometimes, especially when a narcissist is around.Positive Thinking Quotes That Will Change Your Vibe Fast

And who can blame you for feeling discouraged, burnt out and often times, depressed? Dealing with a narcissist in a toxic relationship is hell. And even going through narcissistic abuse recovery is no picnic.

When you’re feeling blue, sometimes all you need to do is change your mind–to change the way you’re looking at the situation.

That’s why I’ve pulled together this list of 158 quotes to inspire you when you’re feeling down. Know of one I missed? Let me know!

Positive Thinking Quotes to Inspire You When You Are Feeling Down

  1. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” – Aristotle
  2. “All things are difficult before they are easy.” – Thomas Fuller
  3. “All you can change is yourself, but sometimes that changes everything!” – Gary W Goldstein
  4. “An attitude of positive expectation is the mark of the superior personality.”- Brian Tracy
  5. “Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.” – Kurt Vonnegut
  6. “Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” –Norman Vincent Peale
  7. “Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.” – Richard L. Evans
  8. “Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.” – Francesca Reigler
  9. “Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn’t know you left open.” – John Barrymore
  10. “Happiness, like unhappiness, is a proactive choice.” – Stephen Covey
  11. “Hate. It has caused a lot of problems in this world but has not solved one yet.” – Maya Angelou
  12. “Hope is a waking dream.” – Aristotle
  13. “I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.” – Muhammad Ali
  14. “I do believe we’re all connected. I do believe in positive energy. I do believe in the power of prayer. I do believe in putting good out into the world. And I believe in taking care of each other.” – Harvey Fierstein
  15. “I do not believe in taking the right decision, I take a decision and make it right.” ― Muhammad Ali Jinnah
  16. “I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.” – Douglas Adams
  17. “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened” – Mark Twain
  18. “I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.” – Maya Angelou
  19. “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” – Michael Jordan
  20. “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” – Milton Berle
  21. “If someone tells you, “You can’t” they really mean, “I can’t.” – Sean Stephenson
  22. “If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.” – John C Maxwell
  23. “If you can change your mind, you can change your life.” – William James
  24. “If you can dream it, then you can achieve it. You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar
  25. “If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.” ― Frances Hodgson Burnett, The Secret Garden
  26. “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.” – Henry Ford
  27. “If you want light to come into your life, you need to stand where it is shining.” – Guy Finley
  28. “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: It goes on.” – Robert Frost
  29. “Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.” ― Walt Whitman
  30. “Learning is a gift. Even when pain is your teacher.” – Maya Watson
  31. “Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.” – Paulo Coelho
  32. “Life is a bowl of cherries. Some cherries are rotten while others are good; its your job to throw out the rotten ones and forget about them while you enjoy eating the ones that are good! There are two kinds of people: those who choose to throw out the good cherries and wallow in all the rotten ones, and those who choose to throw out all the rotten ones and savor all the good ones.”  ― C. JoyBell C.
  33. “Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.” – Tony Robbins
  34. “No matter what the situation, remind yourself “I have a choice.” – Deepak Chopra
  35. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
  36. “Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill
  37. “Success is falling nine times and getting up ten.” – Jon Bon Jovi
  38. “Success is not to be measured by the position someone has reached in life, but the obstacles he has overcome while trying to succeed.” – Booker T. Washington
  39. “Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.” – Mary Tyler Moore
  40. “The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.” – William James
  41. “The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.” – Unknown
  42. “The difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is how you use them.” – Unknown
  43. “The difference in winning and losing is most often…not quitting.” – Walt Disney
  44. “The next time you feel slightly uncomfortable with the pressure in your life, remember no pressure, no diamonds. Pressure is a part of success.” – Eric Thomas
  45. “The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking.” – Robert H Schuller
  46. “The past has no power over the present moment.” – Eckhart Tolle
  47. “The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.” – Confucius
  48. “There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle, or the mirror that reflects it.”  – Edith Wharton
  49. “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.” – W. Clement Stone
  50. “To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” – Elbert Hubbard
  51. “Today is a new beginning, a chance to turn your failures into achievements & your sorrows into so goods. No room for excuses.” – Joel Brown
  52. “We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.” – Robin Sharma
  53. “We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves.” – Swami Vivekananda
  54. “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” – Anais Nin
  55. “Whatever you want to do, do it now. There are only so many tomorrows.” – Michael Landon
  56. “When I do good, I feel good. When I do bad, I feel bad. That’s my religion.” – Abraham Lincoln
  57. “When I hear somebody sigh, ‘Life is hard,’ I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to what?’” – Sydney Harris
  58. “When the world pushes you to your knees, you’re in the perfect position to pray.” – Rumi
  59. “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl
  60. “With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.” – Dr. Wayne W Dyer
  61. “You are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” – C.S Lewis
  62. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
  63. “You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It wont happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.” – Joel Osteen
  64. “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
  65. ”Act or accept.” – Anonymous
  66. ”Talent is formed in solitude, character in the bustle of the world.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  67. ”You are what you think about all day long.” — Dr. Robert Schuller, Adversity introduces a man to himself.- Author Unknown
  68. A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.- Hugh Downs
  69. Accept Change & Survive
  70. Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. – Mark Twain
  71. An idea can turn to dust or magic, depending on the talent that rubs against it. – Bill Bernbach
  72. An obstacle is often a stepping stone. – Prescott
  73. Anyone can do something when they WANT to do it. Really successful people do things when they don’t want to do it. – Dr. Phil
  74. Attitudes are contagious. Make yours worth catching. – Unknown
  75. Being defeated is only a temporary condition; giving up is what makes it permanent. – Marilyn vos Savant, Author and Advice Columnist
  76. By working faithfully eight hours a day you may eventually get to be boss and work twelve hours a day. – Robert Frost
  77. Defeat is not bitter unless you swallow it. – Joe Clark
  78. Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything. – Napoleon Hill
  79. Do first things first, and second things not at all. – Peter Drucker.
  80. Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. – John Wooden
  81. Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking. – William B. Sprague
  82. Enduring habits I hate…. Yes, at the very bottom of my soul I feel grateful to all my misery and bouts of sickness and everything about me that is imperfect, because this sort of thing leaves me with a hundred backdoors through which I can escape from enduring habits. – Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science, 1882
  83. Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better. – Samuel Beckett
  84. Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want. – Dan Stanford
  85. Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor. – Truman Capote
  86. Fall down seven times, get up eight. – Japanese Proverb
  87. Flops are a part of life’s menu and I’ve never been a girl to miss out on any of the courses. – Rosalind Russell
  88. Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. – Albert Einstein
  89. Have the passion, take the action & magic will happen. – Bar Rafaeli
  90. He who has a why to live can bear almost anyhow. – Friedrich Nietzsche
  91. I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else. – Winston Churchill
  92. I can’t understand why people are frightened by new ideas. I’m frightened by old ones. – John Cage
  93. I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become. – Oprah Winfrey
  94. I think and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is false. The hundredth time I am right. – Albert Einstein
  95. If you keep saying things are going to be bad, you have a chance of being a prophet. – Isaac B. Singer
  96. If you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing you have to do is wake up. – J.M. Power
  97. If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today. – E. Joseph Cossman
  98. If you worry about yesterday’s failures, then today’s successes will be few. – Anonymous
  99. If you’re going through hell, keep going. – Winston Churchill
  100. If you’re going to be able to look back on something and laugh about it, you might as well laugh about it now. – Marie Osmond
  101. In any situation, the best thing you can do is the right thing; the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing; the worst thing you can do is nothing. – Theodore Roosevelt
  102. In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock. – Thomas Jefferson
  103. Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. – Mark Twain
  104. Keep on going and the chances are you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have never heard of anyone stumbling on something sitting down. – Charles F. Kettering, Engineer and Inventor
  105. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do. -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  106. Life is “trying things to see if they work” – Ray Bradbury
  107. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. – Dennis P. Kimbro
  108. Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats. – Voltaire
  109. Losers visualize the penalties of failure. Winners visualize the rewards of success. – Unknown
  110. Many great ideas go unexecuted, and many great executioners are without ideas. One without the other is worthless. – Tim Blixseth
  111. Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly. – Stephen R. Covey
  112. People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success. – Norman Vincent Peale
  113. People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  114. Positive anything is better than negative thinking. – Elbert Hubbard, Ray Norda, Chairman, Novell
  115. Remember that happiness is a way of travel, not a destination.- Roy Goodman
  116. Resist Change & Die
  117. Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means.- Albert Einstein
  118. Some succeed because they are destined. Some succeed because they are determined. – Unknown
  119. Sometimes even to live is an act of courage. – Seneca
  120. Sometimes you just got to give yourself what you wish someone else would give you. – Dr Phil
  121. Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can. – Richard Bach
  122. Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. – Mahatma Gandhi
  123. Success consists of doing the common things of life uncommonly well. – Unknown
  124. Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success. – Dr. Joyce Brothers
  125. Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm. – Sir Winston Churchill
  126. Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes but don’t quit. – Conrad Hilton
  127. Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
  128. The best way out is always through.- Robert Frost
  129. The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up. – Mark Twain
  130. The best way to predict the future is to create it. – Unknown
  131. The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra. – Unknown
  132. The only people who find what they are looking for in life are the fault finders. – Foster’s Law
  133. The secret to life is meaningless unless you discover it yourself. – W. Somerset Maugham
  134. The sun shines and warms and lights us and we have no curiosity to know why this is so; but we ask the reason of all evil, of pain, and hunger, and mosquitoes and silly people. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  135. The surest way not to fail is to determine to succeed.- Richard B. Sheridan
  136. The world is more malleable than you think and it’s waiting for you to hammer it into shape. – Bono
  137. There are only two rules for being successful. One, figure out exactly what you want to do, and two, do it. – Mario Cuomo
  138. There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them. – Dr. Denis Waitley
  139. There is no education like adversity. – Disraeli
  140. Those who wish to sing, always find a song. – Swedish Proverb
  141. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. – Mark Twain
  142. Vision doesn’t usually come as a lightening bolt. Rather it comes as a slow crystallization of life challenges that we one day recognize as a beautiful diamond with great value to ourselves and others. – Dr. Michael Norwood
  143. Vision without action is daydream. Action without vision is nightmare. – Japanese Proverb
  144. We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  145. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.- Aristotle
  146. We judge of man’s wisdom by his hope. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  147. What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  148. What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say” — Ralph Waldo Emerson”
  149. What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. – Goethe
  150. Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it. – Mahatma Gandhi
  151. Whenever you find whole world against you just turn around and lead the world. – Anonymous
  152. Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect. – Mark Twain
  153. Where the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be great. – Machiavelli.
  154. Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford
  155. Winners lose much more often than losers. So if you keep losing but you’re still trying, keep it up! You’re right on track. – Matthew Keith Groves
  156. You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want. – Zig Ziglar
  157. You must be the change you want to see in the world. – Mahatma Gandhi

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Torture, Smorture: Be Happy Already

Torture, Smorture: Be Happy Already

When I was a teenager, I thought that being a “real” writer/artist type person meant that I had to be tormented, broken somehow. It seemed to me that most of my literary heroes (Plath, Hemingway, etc.) were tortured souls–people who were somehow unfit for this society–and through no fault of their own.

As far as I could tell, these genius writers were simply too smart, too sensitive, too deep for the social orders to which they were subjected.

And, as life piled up on me, I was afflicted too. As I focused on being a “tortured artist,” I attracted all sorts of dysfunctional situations into my life. No matter what I did, it seemed like I could never get ahead. I filled notebooks with the story of my self-induced pathetic life and drew more and more negativity into my world.

Of course, at that time, it never occurred to me that I was bringing it all on myself. Nope, I thought, I just can’t handle this world and this world can’t handle me. I really thought that somehow I was so different than every other person walking down the street. No one could possibly understand ME, I thought.

And then, one day, I realized the truth. I’ll be honest–it took a few years. But one day I woke up and recognized that, in my quest to become what I thought was a “real” writer/artist type person–I was basically begging for negativity. Every time I turned around, I EXPECTED the other shoe to fall–and it always did.

Post-impressionist painter Paul Gauguin once lamented, “I am a great artist and I know it. The reason I am great is because of all the suffering I have done.”

I call bullshit on that one. Yep, bullshit. Seems to me that he was great because he was talented and because he wanted to be great. Yeah, he suffered too–but I don’t believe that he picked up his paintbrush and painted several masterpieces as a direct result of it. In fact, I believe that he was a great artist BECAUSE he KNEW that he was.

As for me, I learned the hard way that life doesn’t have to suck. These days, I expect only the best. It works for me. I have learned something since my “tortured artist” days–you don’t have to be miserable to be creative–and quite honestly, misery and success aren’t actually friends. Fact is, while misery loves company, it has no interest in success.

Many creative souls have this misconception–that they must be miserable to be effectively inspired. And, hey, if that works for ya, go for it. But here’s what I know: being miserable sucks. Being happy, on the other hand, feels great. And, I don’t know about you, but I’ll take feelings of elation over feelings of dread any day.

But really, my tortured artist friends…how is that working for you? Does being unhappy really serve a purpose in your endeavors, or do you just think  you must be tortured to be legit?

Personally, I think The Collective Inkwell’s Sean Platt had it right.

“I never understood the image of the pained and tortured writer, tearing clumps from their hairline as they face the impossible foe of filling the page, pulling sentences from their minds like ore from the deepest corners of a mineshaft,” he wrote.”Creativity is a garden that only grows with nutrients in the soil and sunlight in the sky. Ideas are seeds, eager to spread and germinate deep within a fertile mind. The best method to finding your best writer is to practice your craft. Complaints not included.”

So often, we feel that we need to fit into a certain mold–ironically, of course, considering that most tortured artists consider themselves outsiders–when in reality, they’re just conforming to the expectations they think society has for them.

Of course, by now you recognize that today’s post isn’t just for my fellow writers. Nope, it’s for each and every one of you. From the harried mom who never gets a minute to herself to the overworked executive who isn’t even sure what his wife looks like anymore, and all the way to the rebellious teenager who is sure his parents are dumb as a box of rocks–it’s all the same. In our efforts to exist as individuals, most of us have, at one time or another, fallen into some society-driven pattern or another. Yeah, these are stereotypes–but think on it a minute. Don’t you know someone who falls in to at least one of those categories?

Let me get to the bottom line here.

I’ve said it before, and I’m going to say it again.  YOU GET WHAT YOU EXPECT. As you think, so you become. Your perception becomes your reality. And hey, you don’t have to believe little old me–just remember what author William James said: “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.”

Good stuff, no?

Mini-Bliss Mission

Today, I ask you to challenge any stereotypes that society places on you. Change your mind. Begin to see (and be) the person you want to be, the life you want to have–and then believe it’s all yours. Watch as your life changes along with your mind–and be amazed. Be happy, my friends. It really is all in your perception.

What do you think? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section, below!

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