What Would Happen If You Gave Everything to Yourself?

What Would Happen If You Gave Everything to Yourself?

Editor’s Note: Today’s post comes from a dear friend and a long-time weight loss buddy I’ve been connected with for nearly eight years. She’s one of my “Fit and Fabulous” girls. You’ll meet others in the coming days and weeks. This post is one she shared in our private group, and with her permission, I’m sharing it with you. Get ready to get motivated!

By Stacey Celaya

The Lovely Stacey CelayaI met a woman who just went through a rough divorce after 17 years of marriage and decided she wasn’t going to live life afraid to do things anymore. So she signed up for a bikini fitness competition and has spent the last year training for that.

She talked about how she is so focused on her goals that when invited to dinner by friends and family she generally takes her own food because she wants to stick to plan.

And she talked about how she gets a lot of shit for that. (By the way, this woman is the best friend of Jacqueline from Real Housewives of New Jersey – since they were teenagers, which is just a really cool thing.)

Anyway, what was so amazing about that conversation was that I had just become obsessed with a blog from a woman that started at 230 lbs and is now ALSO training for her first fitness competition. And you KNOW I don’t believe in coincidences.

At the same time as all this I had a conversation with my hubby in which I mentioned that I was afraid that he wouldn’t want me at some point if I could never get skinny. (Left over shiz from my first marriage.)

And he literally stopped short and couldn’t understand what being skinny had to do with him wanting me or anything else for that matter.

He actually SAID that.

I was stunned.

How could he not understand that? But apparently I am the one that didn’t understand. WHAT AN EYE OPENING EVENT! How skewed my perception of my worth was!

So I literally couldn’t stop thinking about these ladies or the conversation with my husband – I went to bed thinking about it all and I woke up thinking about it all – for DAYS.

I started thinking about my own life and what I was afraid of. I started thinking about what I really wanted out of my life and this journey that I am on. I started thinking about how much I have struggled this past year with weight loss.

And here is what I realized.

Part of what has been holding me back in the weight loss department was a sort of dare for my husband.

An “I dare you to leave me” or a test maybe. In my warped mind – no matter how wonderful a wife I was, the weight thing would eventually make or break the relationship.

When he was stunned and confused by my linking my weight with his wanting me or valuing me as a wife, that made me realize how ridiculous my thought process was.

Another part was that I bought into the bullshit about being 40 and over.

It’s harder, I am middle aged, I am too old to expect too much from my body. Well BULLSHIT. I realized this about 6 months ago and I called bullshit on myself then – but I don’t think I REALLY believed it was nonsense until now. And trust me – that IS nonsense!

But here are the BIG ones!

I spent the last year working towards average results. I am not average. I have NEVER been average.

Quite frankly, I want to be better than anyone else when I am doing something.

And when I say better than anyone – I mean anyone…random people, strangers, TV folk…ANYONE.

So by working towards average results I was actually working AGAINST my nature.

Plus I spent the year TRYING to lose weight. TRYING leaves the door open for the possibility of failure. So NO WONDER I couldn’t get it together.

And finally here is the MOST amazing realization I had:

I have given my EVERYTHING to being a Mom for the last 21 years of my life and I am good at it. I gave my EVERYTHING to my first husband for 10 years. I have given EVERYTHING to my husband now for the last 13 years and I know I am a great wife. I give EVERYTHING to school everyday and I have rocked a 4.0 or close to for most of my academic career.

So what would happen if I GAVE EVERYTHING to MYSELF and what I want?

I TRULY believe that in a former life I was a fit athlete – that feels familiar to me even though I have never completed achieved that yet.

So what if I GAVE myself the gift of this year. This year to give EVERYTHING to ME?

What can I do with ONE YEAR for me?

So that’s what I have done. I GAVE myself the gift on 2013.

This is MY year. I am not going to try to become fit – I WILL be fit. I am not going to settle for average results. I am going to not only lose weight but I am going to lean out and build muscle. I am going to be my dream girl. And THAT’S IT. There is no other possibility.

And I am going to do it bigger and better than anyone else…because that is who I am and what I have ALWAYS done.

So stay tuned, because you ain’t NEVER seen the like of me or what is going to go down this year. It’s going to be EPIC.

What Would Happen If You Gave Everything to Yourself?

Time Tested Beauty Tips

By Angela Atkinson

Beauty isn’t just skin deep, regardless of what the entertainment industry tells you. And, there are all kinds of beauty–not just one society-determined standard.

Audrey Hepburn is famously connected to a beautiful poem called “Time Tested

Beauty Tips”, and while she’s often credited, the truth is that she was just especially fond of it.

The poem, which I will share with you below, was actually written by Sam Levenson, who wrote it for his grandchild.

Audrey Hepburn, a woman remembered for her remarkable physical beauty, reportedly read the poem to her own grandchildren on the last Christmas Eve of her life. As it turns out, Hepburn was more than just a pretty face. Besides her legendary acting career, she was a life-long humanitarian, a survivor of Nazi terrorists and more.

The poem says it all, I think. Please take a look, and share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Time Tested Beauty Tips

By Sam Levenson

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; Never throw out anybody.

Remember, If you ever need a helping hand, you’ll find one at the end of your arm.

As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!

What are your best beauty tips, inner or outer? Share your thoughts in the comments section, below.

 

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