Phenomenal Woman is a brief but very soul-affecting poem that most women could find some inspiration in–especially those who are learning to be HOT WIVES! Not only is this one of my all-time favorite poems, but it’s one of my “go-to” confidence boosters!
I’m sharing this poem today as one of our first Hot Wife Inspirations, which will include poems, quotes, songs and more. Stay tuned!
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can’t see.
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
As a woman, what do you think are the qualities that cause you and/or other women to be considered “hot?” An informal survey of women between the ages of 18 and 65 produced varied answers. Here are some of the most interesting.
What Women Say Makes a Woman Hot
“Class not trash!” ~Kathy
“I’d say stretch marks! Seriously. Child bearing is beautiful.” ~Melanie
“Her eyes.” ~Meredith
“A womans hotness should be defined in two ways…
A man, curves large lips and hair
A woman EVERYTHING ELSE.” ~Julie Ann
“According to my 6 yr old the thingamajiggys on their chest that boys really don’t have. Hubby agrees.” ~Christina
“I think a woman’s ankles are beautiful tanned, accented with a small charm bracelet and accenting the cuteness of the strappy sandals her feet are caressed by.” ~Julie
“A genuine smile because happiness radiates from the inside out.” ~Jackie
“Confidence, knowing she’s hot but being humble!” ~Christy
“Confidence is the key!” ~Angelia
“Leaving something to the imagination. Baring it all is not always a hot thing. My opinion.” ~Karen
“My husband says a woman who has a little independence and strong ambitions.” ~Aimee
“Pure confidence. You can be big and tall and as long as u have confidence and carry yourself well, you will become sexy.” ~Renae
Your Turn: What do you think makes a woman “hot?” Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section, below!
Thriple Threat: Ashley Morrison, Reporter, Model and Actress
It’s just about time to start taking those post-holiday cruises, and if you’re like me, you’re ready for a new swimsuit. I remember when I was plus-sized, it was so much more difficult to find the right suit for my body–I always felt like just skipping the beach or the pool.
But part of our Whole Life Fix Movement is to stop waiting until we meet our goals and start living NOW–so just forget about waiting to buy your swimsuit until you are a size 3. Get on it now–and get on with the business of living.
The fact is that plus size fashions have come a long way from the days of shapeless tent dresses and stretchy pants with elastic waistbands.
Now that there are more exciting choices and selections than ever, it’s easy to look and feel amazing, no matter what your size.
And when it comes to selecting plus-size swimsuits, there’s so much to consider–but
Exotic prints, stripes, solid colors, delicate prints – the sky is the limit today when choosing plus size swimwear fashions.
Fortunately online shopping brings you more selection and convenience than ever before so you can easily find that perfect swimsuit.
Tips for Buying the Most Flattering Swimsuit for Your Body Type
Here are ten tips to keep in mind when shopping for the most flattering, and comfortable swimwear styles:
1. For shorter bodies try vertical stripes, this can visually add length to your body
2. Enhance the length of your legs with a high cut thigh
3. Look for solid chest support with under wires and padding
4. For a one piece suit, pay attention to the body length. You want a comfortable fit, too short and you will find the suit digging into your shoulders
5. Look for wide shoulder straps–they provide more support and comfort
6. Dark colors such as black have a nice, slimming effect
8. Look for swimsuit styles that offer extra tummy control
9. Try skirted bottoms to camouflage heavy thighs and bottoms
10. Pareo wraps and sarongs not only cover problems areas, they are also quite stylish
Two key features to look for when shopping for swimwear is size and comfort. You will want to choose a size that best fits you. If your swimsuit is a size too small, bulges will show.
If you plan on being active in your swimwear, such as participating in water sports, a one piece suit or a fitted tankini are popular choices.
Black and white polka-dots are a classic look that’s always in style–and the traditional print is back this season with a vengeance. Which of these polka-dotted plus-sized swimsuits would you wear for cruise season?
Hot Deal of the Day: Swimsuits for All
Like this suit?
I think it’s adorable–I’d totally wear it under the right circumstances. Like on the deck of a cruise ship headed to the tropics…but anyway…I digress.
This stylish little number is called the Lavender Dots Peplum Tank Swimsuit, and it’s designed by Longitude. It even comes in my size–and goes all the way up through plus sizes.
That little peplum will hide a multitude of bodily sins–a c-section belly, for example, or a slightly flabby bottom–and it’ll make your waist look tiny.
“Imagine a world where beauty is a source of confidence, not anxiety.” ~Dove #GirlsUnstoppable campaign
They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but so often, women forget to behold themselves as beautiful.
If you ask certain members of the entertainment industry, you’d think that the only beautiful women in the world are sort of represented by Barbie dolls–but the truth is that there are beautiful women across the spectrum.
But they’re not all that way–many celebrities have stood up and rallied against the “fake” Hollywood image.
“Beauty, to me, is about being comfortable in your own skin. That or a kick-ass red lipstick.” ~Gwenyth Paltrow
Some are thin, some are thick–others have full DD cups while plenty are rocking a solid A or B. Some beautiful women are darker complected, some are pale as ghosts. There are beautiful women of every race, every size, every nationality–even of every age.
Beauty is subjective–and honestly, there is beauty in EVERYONE and EVERYTHING if you look hard enough.
Beautiful Women Week at Project Blissful & MTM Body
Project Blissful and MTM Body are excited to announce that it’s Beautiful Women Week! Since I’m already collaborating with Jamie at MTM Body on our Dare-to-Bare 8-Week Weight Loss & Fitness Challenge, we’ve been discussing our philosophies and beliefs–and we both feel that every woman is beautiful in her own way.
And while we love men, we realize that our primary audience is women–so this week, it’s all about beautiful women. Both the Project Blissful Facebook page and the MTM Body Facebook page will share photos of beautiful women in all shapes and sizes this week, as well as before/after photos of beautiful women who’ve lost weight and gained health.
Plus, we figure the men won’t mind, anyway. Who doesn’t love beautiful women? 🙂
Our idea was inspired in part by fitness model Ashton Taylor, who recently offered praise for Jamie’s fitness classes at her local Gold’s Gym, so we’re making Ashton our first featured woman of the week!
What to Expect
In addition to our Facebook posts, we’ll have posts focused on all types of beauty–inner and outer–all week. We’ll spotlight beauty tips and treatments and we’ll feature info from the experts. We’ll offer inner beauty support and ideas–and we’ll feature beautiful women of all shapes and sizes all week long!
Are you ready?? Let’s get beautiful! It’ll be a fun week! Stay tuned and tell us in the comments section–what makes a woman beautiful, in your opinion?
Would you (or someone you know) like to be featured as a Project Blissful & MTM Body Beautiful Woman? Comment here or shoot me an email at [email protected] with the subject line “Beautiful Woman.”
Often we’re stuck in a rut of doing things a certain way, because that’s the way everyone else does things, because that’s how it’s always done. Because it’s safe.
But the normal way of doing things is often not the only way, nor the best way.
Bloodletting and leeches were once the normal way of treating most illnesses until smart people started questioning the practice.
Women for a long time were kept out of the workplace because they were thought to be too weak or emotional for many jobs. People used to throw away very little, and nothing was ‘disposable’ because that was thought to be wasteful … wait, maybe that wasn’t so bad.
What if you could shake things up … just by being who you are? Without having to do anything but tell someone who or what you are? It turns out, that’s often been the case in my life. I will just mildly tell people who or what I am, and they start getting defensive, even if I haven’t actually attacked anything they do.
People assume I’m judging them, just because I do things differently. They’re wrong — I don’t judge what others do, but rather just try to live my life consciously, and conscientiously. I often fail, but in the attempt is everything.
Here are just a few examples from my life:
1. Vegan. Just telling people I’m vegan will cause all kinds of interesting reactions. Often people will start to talk about how they were once vegetarian, or how they eat very little red meat, or only sustainably. Or they’ll start to talk about how delicious meat is, or how humans were meant to eat meat, or ask me if I just eat salad. I don’t mind any of this. Instantly, people are giving more thought to these questions than they ever have in the past. As for myself, the reasons are simple: I do it out of compassion for living, feeling, suffering beings who are treated as objects in our society. (Read: the minimalism of veganism.)
2. Minimalist. This is probably the other biggest thing I do that gets a reaction from people. They’ll talk about how they live with very little, or how they want to get rid of clutter, or ask me how you can be minimalist with kids. These are good discussions. We need to start talking about why we own so much, why we buy so much (not just physical stuff, but apps and digital content), why we’ve become consumers instead of just simply living. (Read: my blog mnmlist, or breaking free from consumerist chains.)
3. Self-employed. This is becoming more and more common these days, of course, but the majority of our society remains employed by a corporation (or unemployed). I choose to work for myself, to be my own boss. And now that I’ve done it, I’m unemployable. I’ll never go back, and I’m constantly subverting people I know, showing them how to break from the chains of employment if they’re unhappy. There’s no reason we should work for other people if we don’t want to.
4. Car-free. Almost a year ago, we gave up our car. We’d been slowly cutting back on car usage anyway, but finally giving up a car was liberating. Most people don’t understand this — they see the car as a symbol of freedom, of convenience, without realizing just how much we’ve been chained to cars, just how inconvenient it is for us individually and of course as a society. People often don’t know what to make of someone who voluntarily lives without a car. (Read: lessons we’ve learned riding mass transit.)
5. Healthy & fit. There are many people, of course, who are healthy and fit — much fitter than me. But I’m healthier and fitter than most people I know, and while I don’t judge them at all, discussions always come up about health and diet and exercise whenever I visit. Choosing to be active on most days is a radical thing in our society. Weird, I know.
6. Unschooler. My wife and I homeschool four of our kids, and that makes us weird. Even though compulsory schooling as we know it has only been widespread for a little over a century, and for most of human history, the majority of children were educated at home and somehow their parents found a way to deal with the socialization issue. Parents who send their kids to school get defensive when I talk about unschooling, which is a radical branch of homeschooling that throws the normal model of school (teachers dispensing knowledge to students who memorize it) out the window. We believe our kids should learn how to teach themselves, as many of us learned to do as adults. We don’t believe anyone can create a curriculum of knowledge that will prepare our kids for a future that can’t be predicted, for a workforce that is rapidly changing. Instead, they should learn how to figure things out for themselves, to solve problems, to work on their own without being directed. They’re the entrepreneurs of tomorrow.
7. Goal-free. I’ve written about the radical notion of giving up goals, though it’s thousands of years old (Laozi taught it to me). But the idea of goals is incredibly ingrained in our society (myself included), that people think I’m weird for even suggesting you can live an amazing life of achievement without goals. As if goals were the only reason to do something great. (Read more: the best goal is no goal, and the illusion of control.)
8. Ad-free. The advertising model is an old one, and yet it’s still the predominant form of making money from creating things on the Internet. If you have a blog and want to make money, you probably have ads on your site. Even if the ads suck and no one wants to read them. We put up with them so we can get to the content. What if we could do it differently? I’ve been living without ads for well over a year, and I’m still surviving. It’s forced me to create things of my own, and I’m loving it.
9. Socialist. It wasn’t that long ago (less than a century) when you could say you’re a socialist and not be too weird. George Orwell, Bertrand Russell, Vonnegut, Einstein, Steinbeck, Hemingway, Jack London … were all socialists of one sort or another. Now it’s seen as against the “American Way of Life”. I’m a socialist. I’m not for state-run socialism, but would consider myself more of a mutualist or a (peaceful) anarchist. I have to add “peaceful” because people assume anarchists want to bomb things, while I don’t believe in violence or the violent overthrow of governments. I believe we have given the corporations too much power over our lives and our society, that they’ve turned us into consumerist machines, and that we should have the freedom to run our own lives, and take the power back from the corporation by being self-reliant. That probably brings up more questions than it answers, but the questions are good things.
None of these things defines me, but they are all a part of who I am. They all challenge the norm in some way, bring up questions and discussion that otherwise might not occur, and I believe those are necessary questions and discussions.