Video by Angie Atkinson
THE FISHING LURE ILLUSTRATION
By Jenney Moore
“…but what about all the nice times?”
These things contrived as seeming “nice” or “romantic” are purposefully just that….contrived. These are also often referred to as “hoovers” (referencing being sucked in like a vacuum would do).
This is a manipulation tactic designed to precisely position a target for abuses to come at the moment of utmost vulnerability. This makes the abuser feel powerful, and power is the abuser’s drug of choice…and they purposefully dangle what seems to be our sparkling desires to ensnare victims.
Think of fishing lures..beautifully crafted and painted to painstaking detail to look like desired nourishment to the fish. But cleverly hidden is the sharpened, barbed hook…and immediately thereafter, disembowelment and a hot skillet. The fish is destroyed for seeking to be nourished.
“Nice” is a fishing lure for the victim.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.