The Narcissist Was Wrong About You!

Written by Angela Atkinson

“You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life that lights you up. Don’t ever forget that.” ~Coco Calla

Going through narcissistic abuse in a toxic relationship is one of those situations that steals your soul, in a way. What I mean is that it teaches you that you don’t matter and that your thoughts and feelings aren’t as real or relevant as other people’s thoughts and feelings. You might think you don’t deserve to have “nice things” in your life, and that you are, in general, just not as “good” as other people. You might feel broken, damaged, or even somehow inferior to literally everyone else. You might feel like a fraud – like everything you are is fake, even if you can’t be sure why you feel this way.

But there’s something you need to know if this resonates with you: those feelings are inaccurate. You matter. Your thoughts and feelings are real and relevant and they are worth hearing.  You are a real person and you absolutely are as important and as good as everyone else. You may have suffered some traumas, and that doesn’t make you bad. You might have a lot of healing to do, but that doesn’t make you less real. You might still be trying to figure out who you really are – and that is a beautiful thing if you allow it to be.

And when you think that you don’t deserve “good things” in your life, you’re thinking thoughts that, in a way, aren’t even your own. See, you most likely came to believe this because of the narcissists (and other toxic people in your life) who told you that you weren’t good enough in so many different ways.

Narcissistic Abuse Changes You

Being with a narcissist changes who you become in some pretty big ways. It changes you from someone who might have been a happy, confident, secure person into someone who doubts their worth and their value every day. It takes away your ability to have a healthy, full life and causes you to hyper-focus on it as you try in vain to resolve it, repeatedly, over and over again.

What happens during a relationship with a toxic narcissist to lead to these changes? In this video, I walk you through some of the most common feelings and experiences that lead to the loss of self in a toxic relationship, plus we will talk about self-help techniques you can use to heal and start to find yourself again.

These toxic parents, spouses and other partners, family members, and friends would have made you feel worthless, invisible, perpetually pressured, and unimportant, or some combination of these feelings. They would have led you to believe that your value was conditional: you were only “okay” if you were doing exactly what they wanted you to do. But thankfully, that’s not the truth. Those people were WRONG. So, let’s discuss why you DO deserve to have the things, people, and situations you want in your life you want and how you can go about realizing that you are good enough.

Change Your Narrative

Toxic relationships can make you feel like you don’t deserve anything good. Your parents, teachers, school bullies, friends, and other people in your childhood may have made you feel this way with the way they treated you.  The beliefs that these people taught us (about both ourselves and the world around us) can be deep-rooted and hard to let go of – but with a little intention and focus, it’s entirely possible.

So how do you stop thinking this way?

Start with unconditional self-acceptance – accept yourself without judgment, flaws and all. This video offers tips on developing unconditional self-acceptance and self-esteem.

Things that can help you feel better about yourself and your life

  1. Try a daily gratitude practice – Think of 3 things you love about yourself and 10 things you’re grateful for every single day. And use Intentional vibration management
  2. Take care of your body. Don’t forget to include the following components of healing.

Each of these is covered in detail in this video. Plus a replay of the live Q&A at the end of the content.

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