“The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.” ~William James
But what you don’t know is what it is that made me finally stop being that way.
Maybe it wasn’t the best reason – but hey, it did the trick. But it took a long time to get there.
Even though I had high blood pressure, sleep apnea and several other obesity-related health issues, it took a few non-health related things to kick me in the butt to get moving.
So I can’t hide it any longer. Here’s one of the incidents that inspired me to lose the weight and later tell my story.
Of course, I never thought I’d be sharing this stuff in public.
But here we go – a whole new thing has occurred in my life – I have chosen to try that whole radical self acceptance concept, and I’m digging it – which means that I am willing to share my secret weight loss stuff to help you, my very favorite reader, out – and also willing and able to ignore the negative stuff that comes with it when the trolls get a hold of the link. But that’s another post for another day! So anyway, on with the show.
The Day I Lost My Neck: A Painfully True Story of Self-Realization
My name is Angela Atkinson, and I’m the editor-in-chief and creator of of QueenBeeing.com, among other things. I’m also a woman who has struggled with being obese and being invisible in a society that both perpetuates obesity and shuns those affected by it.
There was a time that my face appeared to be attached to my shoulders – I was seriously neck-impaired. One evening in 2009, I was sitting in my living room having coffee with my friend Lori, when I admitted something that I hadn’t yet been able to say out loud up to that point.
“Lori,” I said. “I no longer have a neck. I can’t believe I’m this fat! I used to have a NECK!”
Being the good friend she was, Lori insisted she could see something that resembled a neck – but the truth was that she was just being nice. I had no neck.
But that moment was significant – it marked a period of serious personal growth in my life – and within a two years of that day, I had completely changed my relationship with food and with my body – and dropped 100 pounds in the process.
Good old Timehop helped me remember this stuff actually – see what it stuck in my face the other day? Ha, I kid! I love these kinds of before and after weight loss photos – they really help my motivation to stay on track! (But, see how I had no neck on that left pic? Yikes! No wonder I could barely breathe.)
I managed to get past the biggest part of my weight struggles and to take off the 100 plus pounds I needed to – although the journey continues every day.
I learned to change my mind, and to understand myself and the way my body works on a whole new level.
In fact, I chronicled the whole deal in my book, Project Blissful: How I Lost 100 Pounds Without Starving, Sweating or Surgery.
I wrote this book because I truly believe in paying it forward and in helping others who could use some real, solid advice from someone who has been where they are, rather than some random fitness guru who has never experienced the life of an overweight or obese person.
My genuine hope is that it helps everyone who reads it to find a new perspective and to allow her (or his) true self to emerge through the physical baggage she (or he) is carrying today. That’s how it worked for me, once I figured out the really important “little things” I was missing – and I’m sharing them all with you in this book.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.