So here’s the deal.
Several years ago, I had a light bulb moment. I was cooking dinner (spaghetti and meatballs, yum) for my family. As I bustled around the kitchen, pulling ingredients from the fridge and pantry, tools from the drawers and cabinets, and other sundry items from various places, it occurred to me.
There are people in the world who don’t have tools with which to cook.
There are people in the world who don’t have food to cook, or safe water to drink, or even a kitchen from which to feed their families.
As I opened the silverware drawer and pulled out a clean spoon to stir the sauce, I said a quiet thank you. As I served my family dinner, I said a quiet thank you. Looking around the table at their beautiful faces, another quiet thank you.
So, even though I had to stop working on an article (which was due by midnight that night) in order to cook dinner, even though my initial reaction was less than enthusiastic about putting my work on hold to cook dinner, even though I would have rather put my head down and cranked out the work–I found reasons for gratitude in the smallest things. And guess what?
It changed my mood and my feelings about the evening completely. I still met my deadline, but I also spent time with my kids and husband with a smile on my face, rather than wishing away the time. I remembered how very lucky I am to have my family and how grateful I am to be able to spend time with them.
So here’s my bottom line folks–stuff happens. Instead of getting upset when life decides that you’re going to have to cook dinner when you’re trying to meet a deadline (or say, you get a phone call during your favorite show…or anytime things don’t seem to go the way you expect them to go), try changing your perspective.
Instead of being annoyed with the interruptions life offers, consider the other side of the coin. Remember that there’s always something for which to be grateful–there’s always a silver lining.
Bliss Mission: Use your silverware drawer to remind you to be grateful!
The next time you go and open your silverware drawer, full of clean and usable tools, take a moment to be grateful.
Even though you might feel silly at first, I promise you that finding reasons to be grateful in your daily hum-drum activities will help you to change your perspective–and your life. Finding happiness and joy isn’t as hard as we think.
Today I challenge you to notice those little blessings in your life and to be grateful for them. Try this little technique for today, and note your state of mind when you go to sleep tonight. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised!
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.