Dealing with an a maligant’s manipulation in a relationship is so difficult. Yet for some reason, when it ends, we are devastated. We feel like our hearts are literally breaking. It is an emotional pain so bottomless that it can feel like a physical blow. When you have a pain like this one, all you want is for the deep ache to go away. But how do you deal with feeling like you don’t have the strength to go on in the meantime?
Know that, despite the horrible pain you’re feeling right now, you can begin to heal the broken pieces of your heart. But how do you get through the most painful days during and after a relationship with an abusive narcissist? How do you find the strength to go on after narcissistic abuse, when you have been discarded (or even when you’ve left the narcissist yourself)? It can feel impossible, but there are ways you can heal and move forward toward creating the life you want and truly deserve. So where do you start?
This is how you find the strength to go on after narcissistic abuse.
Being involved with a malignant narcissist means you deal with regularly toxic behaviors, including narcissistic abuse and its various forms of manipulation, gaslighting, and in many cases, other forms of physical and psychological abuse. You lose the ability to even recognize yourself in so many ways – and you often even sort of forget who you are on an intrinsic level.
So often, survivors of narcissistic abuse find themselves feeling completely helpless after they are discarded by their abusers. So many have told me that they literally felt like they wanted to die – like they did not even want to keep going. It makes sense that you’d feel that way when you think about how cruel narcissists are to the people they claim to love.
Survivors often ask me questions like the following.
- How do you find the strength to go on after breaking up with or divorcing a narcissist?
- How do you get over a narcissist?
- How do you find purpose in your life after narcissistic abuse?
- What do you do in order to stop obsessing about the narcissist?
- How do you get the narcissist to leave you alone?
Start the healing with these 4 Steps to Find the Strength to Move on After Narcissistic Abuse.
How do you deal with a broken heart after narcissistic abuse?
Heartbreak is a pain like any other. It is an emotional pain so bottomless that it can feel like a physical blow. When you have a pain like this one, all you want is for the deep ache to go away. As much as I’d like to advise differently, there is no band-aid for a broken heart. Though it sounds cliché, time is the remedy needed for you to truly heal from such deep, wrenching pain. In time, this pain will go away. Between now and then, however, following a few basic tips might be able to make a difference in how you are feeling.
Following these sometimes difficult, but necessary steps, you can begin to heal the broken pieces of your heart. You can not only become whole again, you can become whatever you wish to become. This is a chance to start fresh, and once the pain starts to ease, you will see it as such an opportunity.
Do you need help and support in your narcissistic abuse recovery process?
How can you get support in your healing? Start with your friends and/or family members who may understand and be willing to support you. If you don’t have supportive or understanding people around you, which is often the case for survivors of narcissistic abuse due to the fact that narcissists have a tendency to isolate you, you may need to look at some other options. Here are a few to consider.
- Free: Join one of our online support groups!
- Low-Cost: Join one of our private small coaching groups!
- Reasonably Priced: Get private, one-on-one coaching!
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- 101 Struggles Only Narcissistic Abuse Victims and Survivors Will Understand
- Narcissistic Abuse and Isolation: Feeling Alone in a Crowd
- Believe it or not: This is THE Most Soul-Crushing Part of Narcissistic Abuse
- Lonely After Narcissistic Abuse? How to Make New Friends AND Keep the Old
- Introducing the DUO Method of Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
- Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Get Out of the Fog with Mindfulness
- Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: What Oprah Winfrey Can Teach You About Taking Better Care of You
- Surviving Narcissistic Abuse: 65 Things You Might Say to Your Narcissist If You Could
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.