“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Regardless of what you do with it, there are only twenty four hours in a day. No matter how hard you try, you can’t make more time. You can, however, find more time using a mindfully intentional method.
With mindfulness, you can take control of the time that you do have and by managing your time, you’ll feel as if you do have more than twenty four hours in a day. Mindfulness is the key to time management that not only lets you get more done with the time you have, but you’ll also be less stressed.
To start, if you’ve learned about a complicated time management system that never seemed to work for you in the past, you need to stop striving. Using elaborate time management methods aren’t what you need, especially if they only add more of a burden.
You need something simple, which is why people find that mindfulness works for them. With mindfulness, there are several tips you can follow to manage the time that you do have.
How to Change Your Mind (And Your Life) With Intentional Time Management
- First, stop. Stop trying to run full speed ahead every single day followed by falling into bed exhausted only to have the whole thing start again the next day. You need to focus on what it is that you have to do.
- Take a few minutes to think about the tasks without stress and without feeling pressured to get them done. By using mindfulness, you create a calm oasis in the middle of the busyness that can give you clarity when it comes to making decisions or choosing what has to be done.
- Prioritize! Once you focus, make sure that you’re being compassionate with yourself. Don’t allow those negative thoughts that tell you that you should have start earlier, should have worked harder, etc.
- Become self aware of what you are doing and practice treating yourself kindly. Once you’re focused and aren’t judging yourself for what you need to do or for any past time management problems you may have had, you need to look over what you have to do.
- It can help to write a list. Look at whatever is on your list that’s causing you to feel pressured or anxiety. If those are things that you can’t let slide, then do those things first to get them out of the way – things that weigh on you can cause mental weariness.
- Then, decide what will happen if you don’t do everything on your list. The purpose for this exercise is that far too many people have a list of “must-do” when those things aren’t necessary at that exact moment.
- You can only do what you can do. By practicing mindfulness, you can focus and gain clarity about what you must do with the time that you have. It will help you to see what you can put off, what you can do less often and any areas where it might be more beneficial to hire someone to complete the task.
- Mindfulness gives you the perspective to know what must be done. It can also help you to see the things that will only drain your time but offer no real benefit to your life. These are things like surfing the Internet mindlessly, which can often lead to an abundance of thoughts racing through your mind and most of those being negative.
- Take time between a fully loaded day to focus on your surroundings. These mental breaks are mindful awareness exercises that help you relax. Some people find the use of mindfulness bells helpful.
These are bells that will ring to help you to take a moment and focus on the present and what you’re doing at that moment. It helps you to practice mindful awareness.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.