My son Noah turned five today, and I cannot believe how quickly the time has flown by. It seems like just yesterday he was a newborn baby, and yet here he is today, five years old. He’s got his own personality, his own very specific opinions, and he is already becoming a really cool little person.
Noah was the most peaceful and sweet little baby who rarely gave me a reason to feel stressed. I dubbed him “My Sweetheart” because he was so loving and cuddly all the time. As he gets older, he maintains that sweetness about him, but I know that becoming the middle child has given him pause. Since he’s not officially “the baby” any more, he sometimes feels left out of things, especially when the baby requires my attention.
To help him cope and help him feel special, my husband and I each do special little things with him. Today, Noah’s daddy is going to take just him to the park and get him ice cream. And earlier, I took cupcakes to his preschool, with a special one just for the birthday boy included.
Sunday, we’re giving him a birthday party, but tomorrow I will take him shopping and maybe to lunch too.
Today and every day, it’s important to let our children know how much they matter to us, as individuals and as our babies. Even if you have ten kids, do what you can to make each one feel special and important to you, and do what you can to know each of them individually.
To Noah, I say, Happy birthday, my Sweetheart. I love you and I will always, always love you and be here for you.
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.