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Toxic Parents Want Free Rent in Your Head Forever: Healing for Adult Children of Narcissists & ACOAs 
Does this sound like you? Are you the adult child of a narcissist? If so, you’re not alone. Join our free support group for adult children of narcissistic parents.

What is a narcissist?

A narcissist, in general, is someone who holds an inflated opinion of him/herself. In narcissistic abuse situations, this refers to a toxic, verbally (and sometimes physically) abusive person who may have narcissistic personality disorder. Toxic parents are sometimes narcissists as well.

Are all toxic parents narcissists?

No, not all toxic parents are narcissists. But often, they display narcissistic tendencies and cause similar issues. Certain issues can cause a parent to behave in narcissistic ways, even when they wouldn’t otherwise be that way. For example, active addiction or alcoholism will often present almost identically to toxic narcissism.

Dealing with gaslighting and enmeshment is difficult for any victim of a narcissist, but when you’re the adult child of a narcissist (ACON) – even if you first identified as an ACOA, it’s a lifelong issue that never seems to lose its grip on you – especially if you don’t know about toxic relationships and narcissistic personality disorder.

Read more: Identifying NPD in Toxic Families

How do you know if you are the adult child of a narcissist in a toxic family relationship?

This article will fill you in completely, but basically, if you feel like you’re being emotionally, physically, spiritually or otherwise abused, manipulated or mistreated by any family member on a regular basis, there is an element of toxicity.

Related: 44 Warning Signs You’re Being Emotionally Abused

These family members can include your spouse and other nuclear family members, but also extended family such as parents and in-laws, siblings, aunts and uncles, grandparents and other relations.

Your toxic family member may over-criticize you or openly judge you for your personal choices, or they may be a little sneakier about it by gossiping or telling lies about you (or your choices) behind your back.

Related: Top 10 Warning Signs You’re Being Gaslighted by a Toxic Narcissist

Some family members may take it to a whole other level and actually attempt to wreak havoc in your life or even to control, destroy or alter your nuclear family, domestic situation or other outside relationships.

How do you heal from having a toxic parent?

Read This: How Adult Children of Narcissists Can Begin to Heal

The healing process for an adult child of a narcissistic parent is a long and sometimes difficult one–but it’s worth the effort. Whether you walk away completely or you choose to limit your relationship to only necessary interactions, you would be wise to give yourself space you’ll need to evolve and grow into the individual you’re meant to be. Read more: Identifying Toxic Family Relationships

As the adult child of a narcissist, you’re bound to have picked up a few (or more) thoughts, feelings and beliefs that aren’t really your own. So, once you get your space, start there: figure out exactly what you believe, and what you don’t. You might be surprised to find out which beliefs or thoughts you’ve been carrying around for all these years for no reason.

The next step is to begin to embrace the fact that you’re an individual who has value. Your thoughts, feelings and experiences are legitimate and worth hearing about–and you are just as good as anyone else. Read more: 10 Things You Need to Know If You’re In a Toxic Relationship

Related: Going No Contact with a Parent

Need help? You’re not alone. Join our free online support group for adult children of narcissists and toxic parents, right here.

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