“Narcissus weeps to find that his Image does not return his love.” ~ Mason Cooley
What causes narcissistic personality disorder?
Though there is no single known cause for narcissistic personality disorder, there are several factors that may be associated with the development of the recognized disorder, according to my research.
It’s all about loss, in some way or another – sort of – whether it’s a loss of a “normal” experience or a loss of the ability to become self-sufficient in one way or another. For example, researchers say the following circumstances could increase the chances of narcissistic personality disorder developing during a person’s lifetime.
- Severe emotional abuse in childhood
- Unpredictable or negligible neglect by caregivers in childhood
- Excessive pampering or praise in childhood
- Excessive criticism for poor behaviors in childhood
- An oversensitive temperament at birth.
- Genetic abnormalities impacting psychobiology (the connection between brain and behavior)
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