This morning I was just sitting down to work when I heard my daughter screaming. I ran out of my office and found her and my son standing over our cat who we’d had ten years – she had died.
Now, this was my cat – and my kids can’t remember life before her. In fact, she was older than my daughter and younger than my son by two years each way.
But then I was left with a problem – I had gotten a bit behind on work yesterday because sometimes, life goes that way. And today was supposed to have been my day to catch up. Of course, all I wanted to do was sit and cry and mourn my little kitty who had become such a significant part of my family.
I felt so awful since yesterday I’d been dismissive of her. She had practically begged for my attention and I’d been so busy that I just halfway ignored her. And you know where that can take you – right to “regret town,” that lonely place where everything hurts and nothing seems to soothe the pain.
So, I’m gonna make this quick. Here’s what I did to get through it – and what I’ve used for a few years now when I feel emotional pain that stops me from living my life.
Quick Emotional Pain Coping Technique: Two Minutes to Self-Soothe Extreme Emotional Pain
What do you do when you can’t stop crying? When it hurts so much you just can’t function? How do you stop focusing on emotional pain you can’t control?
This technique can be used to self-soothe almost any kind of emotional hurt – at least enough to allow you to get back to the business of functioning normally enough to keep going.
I don’t know about you, but emotional pain in general can really slow me down. Whether you’re involved in a toxic relationship with a narcissist or not, this quick two-minute technique will help you to relieve your emotional pain – and fast.
Narcissistic abuse can lead to its victims becoming paralyzed in life – they stop being able to function like a “normal person,” and this is especially true during times of great stress and emotional pain. When you feel the kinds of emotions that make your stomach hurt, your throat tighten and the tears pour, you won’t be much good to anyone – especially yourself.
When you’re dealing with a narcissist, that pain is generally magnified and extreme – in part, due to the narc’s inability to handle the lack of attention and validation that comes along with your pain.
This coping technique has worked for me in the worst of times – and today, I’m demonstrating it for you in this quick video . Watch as my own emotional pain is soothed right between your eyes.
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.