“Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.” ~George Washington Carver
Call me crazy, but if you ask me? It doesn’t matter how hard you think something’s going to be to get done – because somewhere, someone’s already doing that thing and doing it well.
With that in mind, you know it’s possible, so let go of the whole “impossible” concept. Like the old adage says, the word itself says “I’m possible.”
But seriously excuses are typically just a way to justify fear of failure, fear of success or a lack of resolve. Excuses get in the way of our success and even our ability to live our best possible lives.
Argue for your limitations and they are yours – but counter them, and they disappear. So let’s get to making it happen. Stick with me for a minute, I’ll make it worth your while.
Here are five excuses that can stop you from taking your life to the next level – and what you can do to change your mind.
I didn’t finish my degree or the degree I need for that position. A surprising percentage of the most successful people never completed high school. It’s true that education is required to be a doctor, lawyer, or engineer, but education isn’t required in many situations.
Our society places a high emphasis on education, but it’s not always necessary. Motivation and commitment are far more valuable than education in most cases. The truth is that if you really want it, you can have it – but without a degree, it might take a little longer to get there. So how committed are you?
I’m as broke as a joke! Many of those wealthy in the present were poor in the past. Some of the biggest companies were started in a one-car garage. Money certainly makes things easier, but it’s not always necessary to get started.
A lack of financial resources is a convenient excuse to stay stuck in your current situation. The world is full of money. If you don’t have enough money to move forward, find a way to acquire more.
I don’t have enough time. With careful planning, you can find time in your schedule for your priorities. How much extra time do you need to achieve your goals?
- Maybe you can try to eliminate some of the little things you do that aren’t as crucial to making your dreams come true, like that spin class you hate anyway (maybe you can listen to a book on tape and ride a real bike, instead?).
- Try saying “NO” once in awhile, especially if you’re usually stuck on “yes” – don’t beat yourself up if you’re a people pleaser. I’m a recovering one myself. It definitely can get better.
- Learn to delegate some of the “small stuff” already.
- Cut down on watching television. You’d be surprised how much you can get done during the time you usually spend watching shows on TV or the internet!
It’s too late to get started. Do you think life has passed you by? An 80 year-old man climbed Mount Everest successfully. People over the age of 60 have graduated from medical school. Is it really too late? It’s possible that your age or life circumstances can make success more challenging, but it’s unlikely that it’s too late.
What can you do today to take that first step?
I don’t know how to get started. There was a time when Tiger Woods didn’t know how to play golf and Warren Buffett couldn’t even spell “stock.” It might be true that you don’t know how to get started. That just means you require some education.
There’s never been a time in history when more free information was available. You can find anything you need to get started online or at the local library. And there’s no law that states you can’t sit in the bookstore all day and read to your heart’s content.
If you feel that success is eluding you, thoughtfully consider the possibility that you might be making excuses. You might discover that what you thought was stopping you all along was really you! Now that you know, you can get past your excuses and on the path to success.
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.