You really can do anything you set your mind to – and that includes almost literally everything.
Many of us have big dreams that we try not to think about. Some people want to be astronauts, some people want to be rock stars… but few people will admit that when asked at a party what they’re interested in.
Problem is, we feel a bit silly admitting to our ambitious dreams and hopes because we know they have a small chance of becoming real. We let a fear of failure prevent us from speaking about our aims – and even prevent us from acknowledging them!
But this is hugely misguided. The reality is actually that it is easy to achieve anything you want to achieve. And you can be whatever you want to be – just like the teachers told you at school. Read on and we’ll look at how and why this can be the case.
How to be a Rock Musician?
If you want to be a rock musician, what do you do?
The first step is simply to start playing rock. What you could do next though is to start recording that playing and maybe upload it to YouTube. Do this enough and eventually you’ll get a following as people start to add you and subscribe. Over the course of a few years, you could eventually end up with a list of subscribers that’s long enough to make you legitimately something of a minor celebrity…
Want to be a novelist? Then you can write a book and publish it on LuLu (a self publishing site) to be able to legitimately say you’re a ‘published author’.
The point is that it’s actually very easy to become the thing you want to be. Getting to the point where you’re professional is harder but you don’t need to make your job the thing that defines you. So in other words, if you want to say you’re a ‘writer’ all you have to do is to ‘write’.
Once you start looking at your goals and dreams like this, it allows you to completely forget the idea of failure. Failure is no longer an issue and so you can attack your goals with vigor. You can’t fail to ‘write regularly’ and this allows you to enjoy the thi8ngs you are passionate about without feeling the need to lie or to downplay your hopes and objectives.
You can be anything you want to be – and being good comes with time!
Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy.
She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.