What are narcissistic fleas?

Written by Angela Atkinson

Ever wonder if you’re a narcissist? You might just have a few fleas…narcissistic fleas, that is. In this case, we’re not talking about the kind of narcissist who just looks in the mirror too often or takes a lot of selfies. We’re talking about a malignant narcissist.

A malignant narcissist is someone who has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) along with antisocial features, paranoid traits, and ego-driven aggression. They may also exhibit an absence of conscience, a psychological need for power, and an inflated sense of self-importance and entitlement, among other symptoms of NPD. They may be a grandiose or overt type of narcissist, or they may be a covert narcissist.

What are narcissistic fleas?

Narcissistic “fleas” are behaviors that are traditionally exhibited by toxic narcissists or people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). After spending months or years under the control of a toxic, abusive narcissist, their victims tend to pick up these behaviors as a sort of side effect of the abuse – and of the general proximity to these people. These behaviors might even include those that have often been considered abusive when they are used by narcissists, such as verbal bullying, coldness, and an apparent lack of empathy.

In other words, narcissistic fleas are sort of a complication of long-term involvement with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder. This may be a narcissistic parent or a narcissistic spouse, or even a long-term narcissistic friend or co-worker.

Can you get rid of narcissistic fleas?

The good news is these so-called “fleas” can be eradicated with mindfulness and intention. In this video, I explain in detail exactly what narcissistic fleas are, how you actually get them, and how you can get rid of them. Plus, I offer examples of what it looks like when you get a case of these “fleas,” including one or two from my own life.

Narcissistic Fleas and Dealing with Conflict After Narcissistic Abuse

Do you struggle to deal with conflict after narcissistic abuse, even if you feel like you have already done a  lot of healing work? If that’s the case, you aren’t alone. In this video, my fellow narcissistic abuse recovery coach Lise Colucci offers her take on how you deal with conflict after narcissistic abuse and how you can determine if you have the “narcissistic fleas” based on this.


For information about Lise Colucci and how to schedule appointments for coaching, group coaching or to call in as a survivor on the future you can find her here https://queenbeeing.com/lise/

For information on group coaching focus groups head over to Life Makeover Academy.

What if you’re actually a narcissist? How can you tell?

Are you worried that you have more than a few  “narcissistic fleas,” or that you might actually BE a narcissist yourself? If so, take this quick narcissism self-assessment and get some additional insight.





These articles might also help if you’re struggling with narcissistic fleas.


  • Angela Atkinson

    Angela Atkinson is a certified trauma counselor and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships since 2006, she has a popular narcissistic abuse recovery YouTube channel. Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own. Atkinson offers trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coaching and has certifications in trauma counseling, life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation, and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves. Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse here at QueenBeeing.com and at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online.

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