Ever wonder if you’re a narcissist? You might just have a few fleas…narcissistic fleas, that is. In this case, we’re not talking about the kind of narcissist who just looks in the mirror too often or takes a lot of selfies. We’re talking about a malignant narcissist.
A malignant narcissist is someone who has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) along with antisocial features, paranoid traits, and ego-driven aggression. They may also exhibit an absence of conscience, a psychological need for power, and an inflated sense of self-importance and entitlement, among other symptoms of NPD. They may be a grandiose or overt type of narcissist, or they may be a covert narcissist.
What are narcissistic fleas?
Narcissistic “fleas” are behaviors that are traditionally exhibited by toxic narcissists or people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). After spending months or years under the control of a toxic, abusive narcissist, their victims tend to pick up these behaviors as a sort of side effect of the abuse – and of the general proximity to these people. These behaviors might even include those that have often been considered abusive when they are used by narcissists, such as verbal bullying, coldness, and an apparent lack of empathy.
In other words, narcissistic fleas are sort of a complication of long-term involvement with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder. This may be a narcissistic parent or a narcissistic spouse, or even a long-term narcissistic friend or co-worker.
Can you get rid of narcissistic fleas?
The good news is these so-called “fleas” can be eradicated with mindfulness and intention. In this video, I explain in detail exactly what narcissistic fleas are, how you actually get them, and how you can get rid of them. Plus, I offer examples of what it looks like when you get a case of these “fleas,” including one or two from my own life.
Narcissistic Fleas and Dealing with Conflict After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you struggle to deal with conflict after narcissistic abuse, even if you feel like you have already done a lot of healing work? If that’s the case, you aren’t alone. In this video, my fellow narcissistic abuse recovery coach Lise Colucci offers her take on how you deal with conflict after narcissistic abuse and how you can determine if you have the “narcissistic fleas” based on this.
For information about Lise Colucci and how to schedule appointments for coaching, group coaching or to call in as a survivor on the future you can find her here https://queenbeeing.com/lise/
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What if you’re actually a narcissist? How can you tell?
Are you worried that you have more than a few “narcissistic fleas,” or that you might actually BE a narcissist yourself? If so, take this quick narcissism self-assessment and get some additional insight.
These articles might also help if you’re struggling with narcissistic fleas.
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