“You get whatever accomplishment you are willing to declare.” Georgia O’Keeffe
So last night, as I pushed to meet a midnight deadline I had for a writing assignment, I felt a little stress. My middle son wasn’t feeling well and my daughter was a bit needy as she is teething, so I was forced to wait until everyone went to sleep to get my work done. That was okay, but the deadline loomed as I wished I could just go to bed. I’d been up the night before (and last night) with my middle son and was just exhausted.
Still, there’s this odd thing about me that I think y’all should know–I LOVE deadlines, and I cannot bring myself to miss one. So, there I was, writing my butt off. I made my deadline, and afterward, I realized that the sense of accomplishment I had made the entire event worth it.
The only thing I regretted was that my attitude was slightly negative during the process, which only made it more difficult for me. If I’d gone in with my usual smile and confidence, I’d have been done with less stress, and still have had the same feeling of accomplishment.
So, I suppose the point to today’s blog goes back to one I wrote a few days ago about following your passion. It turns out that sometimes following your passion takes a lot of work, and if you’re willing to do it, you can achieve your goals–whatever they are. Certainly, you need to declare your intentions and relax–but be aware of the signals that the universe is sending you.
Sometimes, we need to take action to fulfill our passions. Even the smallest action in that direction can start a snowball effect and help you meet your ultimate goals, whatever they may be. Part of the benefit, besides the actual goal being accomplished, is that you feel amazing when you’ve finished a project or plan. It’s something for which I was truly grateful last night.
Persistence and patience wins the race. Be strong, love yourself, and remember who you are at the base of it all. Give yourself the gift of accomplishment, and don’t forget to give yourself a pat on the back when you’ve made your goals, however small they may be.
Learn it, live it, love it!
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.