Do you feel that therapy isn’t working for you? You don’t have to settle for therapy sessions that leave you upset and confused. There are things you can change today that may provide more effective results.
If not, consider these options:
1. Recognize the need for change. The first step is to recognize that you may need to make changes in how you receive or use therapy. First, ensure you’re giving therapy a chance. You don’t want to quit after one session. However, if you’ve been in therapy for months without seeing an improvement, then it may be time for a change.
2. Talk to the therapist. You can’t expect to change anything if you don’t address your concerns. Explain to your therapist how the therapy isn’t working for you. Perhaps you and your therapist can devise a different approach to your issues. It’s important to focus on specific things, so your therapist can understand how to help you. Discuss what you would like to change. Talk about the roadblocks that seem to be stopping you from seeing success with your therapy.
3. Consider another therapist. In some cases, you may not work well with your first therapist. It’s possible that you simply need to find another person who will better understand you. You may even need to try several therapists until you find the right one. It’s crucial that you investigate any therapist that you may be considering. Ask questions. Ensure they’re licensed, professional, and know about your condition. You may need to seek out a specialist.
4. Check out other types of therapy. You may benefit from a different type of therapy. Individual therapy works well for many people, but it may not be the right thing for you. You may do better with group or couples therapy. Be willing to explore other therapy options.
5. Medications. It’s possible that therapy isn’t enough by itself to make a significant change in your life. Perhaps medications will help. Talk with your doctor about medicines that could make a difference, and their side effects, so you can make an informed decision. You may also want to think about a combination of medication and therapy. In some cases, this combination more effectively provides the results you seek from your therapy.
6. Be brave. It’s difficult to admit that something isn’t working for you, but you’re committing time, effort, and money to have therapy. If the process isn’t working, it’s important to speak up. You won’t see any changes until you address the issues. Consider, too, how much you’re really exerting yourself. Are you following the therapist’s advice and implementing it, Are you ignoring the techniques and homework, Therapy won’t work unless you’re willing to use the information you learn.
Therapy is an individual process and may need to be adjusted along the way. If you feel that your current therapy isn’t working for you, have an open discussion with your doctor and consider alternatives. You may find the solution that makes all the difference!
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.