What to Do When Grey Rock Doesn’t Work: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Hacks

Written by Angela Atkinson

When Grey Rock Doesn’t Work – What do you do when you grey rock a narcissist’s gaslighting and it doesn’t work? How do you deal with that and what do you do instead?

You use the Grey Rock Method when you cannot terminate all communication for some reason. But sometimes codependency prevents you from seeing the benefits of the gray rock technique.

Before we get into what to do when gray rock doesn’t work, we should first discuss exactly what this “Gray Rock” thing is, and how you can use it effectively.

Gray rock is a simple but highly effective way of dealing with narcissists, and in a nutshell, it means that you respond to the narcissist as briefly, and factually as possible. You don’t give them any of your emotions when you use gray rock; instead, you keep it as boring as you can: monotone, detached and as vague as possible.

Then, if the narcissist treats you badly, you simply ignore it. You go on as though they hadn’t reacted at all.

If they act like they aren’t “getting” what you’re doing, keep up with it and ignore it. Same goes for what to do if they irritate or upset you – keep going and ignore their response.

But what do you do when grey rock doesn’t work? That’s what we’re talking about in this video (watch here or on YouTube).

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