My oldest son, Cameron, has started He’s super excited about writing, and says he wants to use his blog to practice. He asked me to help him set some things up, and then asked me to let people know his blog was out there. So here we go, I’ve fulfilled my promise. 🙂
At any rate, I started thinking about it, and it’s pretty clear to me that Cameron is interested in writing because I’m a writer. While I had a moment of anxiety about the idea of him following in my footsteps, I let it pass.
I worried that he may be neglecting his own passion to try out mine. But, I reasoned with myself, I’d never even tried to push him in that direction. He went of his own accord. And, I decided, he was able to change his mind if he wanted. Maybe writing is his thing, or maybe he’s just testing the waters.
Well, of course you know where my mind went next.
I realized that in directly imitating this behavior of mine–writing–he is teaching me a lesson of sorts. I’ve said it before, but I suppose this reinforces it more than ever.
Children learn what they live…and live what they learn.
Such a simple phrase with such a ginormous sentiment behind it. At that point, of course, my paranoid side kicked in and I began scrolling through all of the less than perfect behavior I may or may not have exhibited in the past.
Just short of having a panic attack, I realized that I was worrying for nothing. First, while my behavior has been far from perfect, I’m certainly not a terrible example for my kids in most respects. Second, even if I had done something less than perfect in the past, I couldn’t change it now. I’d have to just release any old guilt and move forward, knowing I could do better every day.
So, bottom line. Recognize that your speech, body language, actions, and emotions affect the people around you–and are how you communicate with the world about who you are. Your children will begin to develop their lifelong personalities based on their experiences in the first few years of life.
Think about your children as adults. Who would you want them to be? How would you want them to remember you? Now, here’s the fun part. Figure out a way to make that happen. Be the person (and the parent) you want your child to know you are. Doing so will improve both your life and theirs. Can’t beat that!
Learn it, live it, love it!