Narcissistic Parents and the Damaging Effects on Your Adult Relationships: Toxic Family Legacy

Can being raised by a narcissist cause you to marry a narcissist?

If you’re married to a narcissist or in a long-term relationship with one, you may have also been raised by a toxic parent. This seems to be the case more often than not. Of course, there are other reasons you can end up with a narcissist, such as other types of childhood trauma and low-self esteem. But most of the time, people who were raised by healthy parents and who have reasonable self-esteem will not tolerate the abuse that comes with being involved with a narcissist.

So, let me ask you a few questions.

• If you were raised by a toxic parent who may have been a narcissist, did you also end up marrying one?
• And did you ever wonder exactly why you chose to get into a toxic relationship – and why you couldn’t see it in the first place?
• Do you ever as, yourself why you married the wrong person?

In this video, I’ll explain why narcissistic parents and the damaging effects of being raised by them can lead you to find yourself married to a narcissist, or at least continuing in toxic relationships long after you leave your family of origin.

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Were you raised by a narcissist? If so, these resources will be helpful for you.

• If you’re looking for traditional narcissistic abuse recovery therapy, just be sure to interview your therapist ahead of time, even if that means you just chat with them by phone or video chat before your first appointment. To make sure they are qualified and will understand your situation, you’ll just need to ask the right questions ahead of time – take a look at our recommended list of therapist interview questions right here. 
• Still not sure your parent is a narcissist? Take our toxic mother test for some additional insight, right here. 
• Already know you’ve dealt with a narcissist mother? Get the support you need! Join our free online narcissistic abuse recovery support group for the adult children of narcissistic parents.
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Help With Recovery from Toxic Parents

• Books for Adult Children of Narcissistic Mothers
• Inner Child Healing
• Self-Identifying as the Adult Child of a Narcissist
• 63 Things Narcissistic Mothers Say
• Recovering From a Narcissist Mother

Resources for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse

• Take the Test: Are you dealing with a toxic narcissist in a relationship? 
• Healing Resources for Survivors
• How to Leave a Narcissist (PLAN)
• No Contact Support
• Tools for Recovery
• Self-Care
• First Aid (PERK)
• Free Online Support Groups
• Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching

You might also like these videos:

• When You Can’t Go No Contact With A Narcissist Grey Rock: What It Is, How to Use It with a Narcissist and Grey Rock Examples (Psychology) 
• Narcissists Are Predictable! (The Truth on Why They’re All the Same) 
• 4 Ways to Get a Narcissist to Leave You Alone
• When You See the Narcissist After No Contact 
• The Codependent’s Guide to Setting Healthy Boundaries After a Toxic Relationship 
• New! Identifying Narcissistic Abuse in Toxic Relationships

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