“Maybe part of loving is learning to let go.” ~The Wonder Years
Relationships end for all kinds of reasons–some more logical than others. We did an informal survey of a group of men ages 24 to 50 and asked how their last relationships ended.
Here are a few of their most interesting answers.
Why My Last Relationship Ended: Men Speak Out
“Came home from work to find her gone. No letter, no call, nothing. I had to tell our 16 year son the next morning when he came in from a sleep over. That was 5 days before his 17th birthday. She just up and left to Michigan.” ~Dennis
“I was a dam drunk. I put her through hell and back. I kicked her out. Went and got a fast devorce. Then for awhile I thought what an ass. I turned my self in for recovery. 1 year later when I new I was alot better but still in recovey. Had to find her. Another year later remarried and I’m 3 years sober going on 4 years.” ~Joe
“When I was a freshman in college, I had a crush on a girl… we will call her Karen. We went out a couple times. It never turned into anything romantic, but we became best friends… When I was a junior in college, I started dating a girl… we will call her Tracy. We dated for 9 months… when I was a senior in college, Tracy dumped me and started dating… Karen… the girl I had a crush on my freshman year. Now every time I hear “My Best Friend’s Girlfriend” by The Cars, I cry AND laugh.” ~Kristopher
“I caught my ex in bed with another woman.” ~Josh
Why Relationships End, According to Men
According to AskMen.com, relationships commonly end for a few different reasons; primarily religion, sex, money and kids (or lack thereof).
AskMen suggests the following tips to help keep your relationship healthy.
1- Discuss issues as you go along, as values and wants evolve.
2- Accept the other person for what they are, and don’t expect them to change.
3- Try to understand your woman, rather than argue with her.
4- Keep an informal count to make sure that sacrifices are distributed equally.
eHarmony lists distance as a primary factor in relationships ending, followed closely by “the real self” coming out. It seems that many people are so busy pretending to be something they’re not that when the “real” versions of themselves rear their “ugly” heads, their partners are often shocked and disappointed.
And SheKnows.com says the top two reasons relationships end are incompatibility and cheating.
How about you? What do you think is the top reason for relationships to end? Why did your last relationship end? Share your thoughts, feelings and experiences in the comments section, below.
Angela Atkinson is a Certified Life Coach and the author of more than 20 books on narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery and related topics. A recognized expert on narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder who has studied and written extensively on narcissistic relationships since 2006, Atkinson was inspired to begin her work as a result of having survived toxic relationships of her own.
Atkinson offers trauma-informed coaching and has certifications in life coaching, level 2 therapeutic model, CBT coaching, integrative wellness coaching, and NLP. She is a certified trauma support coach and certified family trauma professional. She also has a professional PTSD counseling certification. Her mission is to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves.
Along with her solution-focused life coaching experience, Atkinson’s previous career in journalism and research helps her to offer both accurate and understandable information for survivors of abuse in a simple-to-understand way that helps to increase awareness in the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Atkinson founded QueenBeeing.com Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support, the SPANily Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support Groups and the Life Makeover Academy. In her life coaching practice, Atkinson’s clients enjoy her personalized approach that allows and encourages them to become the best possible versions of themselves and to succeed in doing what they love most. She offers individual and group coaching for victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse at NarcissisticAbuseRecovery.Online and NarcissismSupportCoach.com.