How to Recognize, Understand and Overcome Trauma as a Side-Effect of Narcissistic Abuse – Step by Step Guide and Resources List for Healing From the Trauma Associated with Narcissistic Abuse. Depending on what level of trauma you experienced during narcissistic abuse, the process for dealing with it varies. In cases of shorter relationships and those that aren’t as significant (such as a co-worker of a few months, versus a 20-year marriage, for example), you might feel better with time. But most of us will need to go through a whole process that will involve an extended period of self-reflection, research, learning, coping, grieving, and ultimately, and personal evolution. Here’s everything you need to know to help yourself heal trauma in narcissistic abuse recovery.